Post # 1
I received the below invitation for a friend’s husband’s 50th birthday party.
When I receive an invitation to an event, I assume that I am invited as a guest to a party and not be paying my way. However this invitation mentions joining “a la cart.” What that to rhyme or are they expecting each to pay their way?
I could understand paying for dinner and drinks. But if this is a casual party, why send an invitation, they should have just send a quick email or evite.
Now, I would like to know this because if I am paying my whole evening of activities, it will probably be about $50-60/person, $100 for FI and me. I don’t want to spend extra money on a gift. But if they are paying for us, then I don’t want to show up empty handed without a gift.
What would you suggest? How do I politely find out information?
Post # 3
I am leaning towards paying your own way.
I understand why its a formal invite, because she wants formal RSVPs since it requires reservations for both the sail and dinner (assuming you would have to pay for both) his however, it would be better if it were more clear.
I would send her a quick email confirming. “Dear JJ, Thanks for the invite. Could you please clarify if this is a hosted or non-hosted event?”
Post # 4
@ThreeMeers: that’s perfect. simple and to the point without using the word “money.”
Post # 5
I read this as, if you are only coming to one part of the night, let me know which one so I can properly reserve it. When you order a la cart at a restaurant, you are picking one item instead of a whole meal.
Post # 6
@Andthepupmakes3: yea, that’s what I think too.
Post # 7
@Andthepupmakes3: +1, I read it the same way if you can only attend one part that’s fine but to specify which part