Post # 1
So I’m the Maid of Honor and there are no other bridesmaids, I’m it. Not a big deal for planning since there were going to be 3 showers put on, Bride’s Grandmother, future Mother In Law, and me. Somehow they’ve all gotten combined into mine. The others were going to be at people’s homes and potluck. The bride is a nurse and didn’t think her schedule would allow so many dates?
So I had been planning a brunch with a guest list of about 15. Now the guest list is around 30-35. Since I don’t live in town mine was going to be at a restaurant and I’m thinking I’m averaging $12-15 a head. That’s not including wine or mimosas.
Is this all on me? Just roll with it and make the shower her wedding present from me? I don’t think the bride should pay but no one has offered to chip in and I feel rude asking anyone for money. It is just starting to add up quickly. Do I need to get her a gift as well? Help!?!?!
Post # 3
@MOHSophie: I think you need to get with the MIL, and grandma and seriously ask them about the financial cost of all this. They can’t except someone your age to be able to affored all this alone. It’s not rude to ask them to pay or help pay for the shower them seemed to have forced on you.
No one should EVER expect ONE person to pay for all this. Thats just asking way too much of anyone.
Post # 4
You def need to get in contact with FMIL and Grandma and chat about this a see what they are thinking. Maybe they plan to help pay but arent sure how to go about it or they could be crazy and think these things juat magically happen haha.
You could even start the discussion by email just to get the ball rolling if you’re uncomfortable calling or in person to start.
Post # 5
As awkward as it feels, I’d just get in touch with the mom and grandma and ask them if they are planning on/would like to co-host with you. Co-hosting implies they are chipping in financially. I don’t think the entire price should be on you. Showers are expensive!
My sisters are hosting mine (they felt awkard asking the bms for $ too even though I told them to go the co-hosting route) but my mom and aunt are chipping in, as well.