Post # 1
As the bride, am I supposed to pay for the hair and make up of all five of my bridesmaids?
I am not requiring them to get their hair or make up done but if they want it done, they can. I was drafting up an email letting them all know what the prices would be for hair and make up and if they are interested in paying to have it done, they need to let me know so I let the hairstylist and make up artist know how many girls so enough time is alloted. I haven’t sent the email because now I am thinking I should pay for it? What is the proper ettiquette? Please help!!!
Post # 3
I paid, just because I figured if it wasn’t for my wedding, they certainly wouldn’t be getting their hair and makeup done.
Post # 4
You would pay ONLY if you were requiring them to look a certain way (aka all have blue nails, all have their hair up in a chignon, all have false lashes and red lips). My bride offered to pay for my hair and I turned her down.
Post # 5
As long as it’s not a requirement for you to have it done, you don’t have to pay but I do think that’s it’s a nice gesture. I paid for all of my ‘maids hair and my MOH’s MU. I originally didn’t plan to cover any of it since it wasn’t a requirement for me but in order to have the stylist and MU artist come to the hotel I had to meet a certain minimum which wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t include my girls. In the end, I’m happy I treated them to these services. They really appreciated it and everyone looked gorgeous.
Post # 6
I don’t think you need to pay. It’s nice if you have it in your budget but totally not necessary. I’ve been in several weddings and the only time I had my hair and makeup paid by the bride I ended up looking awful and wished I had just done it myself. But oh well.
Post # 7
In my brother’s wedding, all of us did our own hair and make-up. And I’m doing the same for my wedding, if they want to get it done then its coming out of their pocket. But if you wanted to pay then do it as there “gifts”.
Post # 8
I told my bridesmaids I would pay for either hair or makeup, and if they wanted both, they would have to pay for the other service. All except 1 wanted both– and when the 1 bridesmaid found out she was the only one not having both, she changed her mind.
For me, it’s part of my gift for them. I want to get ready with them around, and if they aren’t getting hair/makeup done, it would likely be very boring for them, and I wanted them to feel special and treated!
Post # 9
CaitMarae–did you also give them a gift, or was that their main bridesmaid gift?
For each girl to get their hair done it is $55 and then it’s $35 to get their make up done or $45 if they want false lash application too. That’s $450-$500 for five girls for hair and make up…if I just did their hair it would be $275–I think either way that is a generous gift. I would still do something little too–I have Bridesmaids Survival Kits and hangers for each of them already.
Post # 10
@future_mrs_sommer: I paid for their nails, hair, makeup, and a gift. I may have overspent a bit 😉
Post # 11
I couldn’t afford to pay for my BMs hair or makeup, so I told them they didn’t have to get it done professionally and that we could all just get ready at the cottage & help each other as needed. To my surprise, a few of them insisted on having their hair professionally done, so I booked the appointments for them and let them pay without guilt! I did pay for mani/pedis for everyone the day before, but I considered that their “gift” (in addition to “day of clutches/survival kits” which weren’t really full gifts on their own since they wouldn’t have needed them if they weren’t attending my wedding).
Post # 12
@future_mrs_sommer: Yep, I didn’t really consider their beauty treatments to be a part of their gift since I have a similar menality as hotchildinthecity. Even if they paid for the hair/MU themselves, it was still for my wedding.
I gave them each movie night baskets as their gift. They included the Bridesmaids DVD, a comfy throw blanket, PJ bottoms, gourmet popcorn and a bottle of wine all inside of a nice fabric lined basket. I fully admit to having gone a bit overboard on my girls (probably close to $200 each including their hair/MU) but I’m an overgifter.
If you ask me, hair is much more important than makeup. I didn’t plan on paying for any of their makeup and didn’t even make it an option for my girls at first but then my Maid/Matron of Honor said that she wanted to get hers done (would have paid for it herself) but I decided to cover that as an extra thank you for her. It would have been $75 p/bridesmaid for my other girls to have it done and I didn’t want to make them feel like they had to cough up that kind of cash (neither of them are comfortable financially). If you just cover their hair and let them do their own makeup, that would be MORE than generous.
Post # 13
I did the same thing — didn’t require it, but if they wanted to, they could. They covered the cost, and surprisingly, most of them wanted to go the professional route.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
As long as you’re not requiring them to have it done then you don’t need to pay.
I decided to pay for them to get their hair done, but told them if they wanted to get their makeup done professionally they were on their own. 😉
I also bought them gifts because paying for them to get their hair done isn’t really a gift… It’s just something you want for your wedding.
Post # 15
I paid for hair and makeup as a gift. but I think that as long as you say it’s not mandatory, then it’s ok to not offer to pay. but you should definitely tell them in advance so there are no surprises.
are you having on-site stylists? because sometimes they have a minimum of about 3 girls or so, otherwise they might not do it.
Post # 16
I am having an on site stylist but she is my friend from high school and my regular hair stylist that I see for a cut and color every 6-8 weeks. I actually went to her cosmotology state board with her as her mannequin. She’d do it for just me or all five of the girls…she didn’t require a minimum luckily. Plus she and her husband are guests at my wedding. She just wants to know how many girls so she can allot her and her assistants enough time.