Post # 1
Hey girls, I’m hoping you can help me out! I have 7 bridesmaids. I would LOVE to pay for everything for them, but with budget restraints it’s just impossible. They will be purchasing their dresses, so I thought it would be nice to pay for their hair (I will get my makeup done but they can do their own. ) The only thing is, it’s freaking EXPENSIVE! I live in a pricey area so it’s tough.
I’m getting quotes for my hair and makeup plus thheir hair for around $600-$1,000. Even if this is normal, it’s just insane to pay that much IMO. I would like for them to have their hair professionally done, but I’m having a pretty casual beach wedding so it’s not a BIG deal.
Help me?! Did you offer to pay? If you didn’t, did they care to do their own hair, did they care to pay?
Can you tell I’m a people pleaser? haha, I just want to be an accommodating bride!! 🙂 thanks girls
Post # 3
It’s never cost me more than $75 anywhere to get my hair done as a BM (and it was never offered to me by the bride). Your estimates are insane personally. Are you asking them to wear it a certain way? If you are, then it’s nice to offer to pay. If you don’t really care how they do their hair, then maybe skip the offer and let them do their own. Or I’d keep shopping for a cheaper salon. I only have a MOH and haven’t asked what she wants to do with her hair yet. If she wants it done, I’ll probably offer to pay.
Post # 4
@GeorgiaBride5: I know, right?! they are crazy high! I will keep looking! And no, they can do whatever they want. I just want to have the opportunity to offer to pay, I hate how expensive everything is 🙁
Post # 5
@GeorgiaBride5: I agree, you need to shop around some more to find better quotes. I’m getting married in Honolulu and the stylist that I’ll probably go with charges $70 for bridesmaids hair. I will also be paying for all 5 of my bridesmaids since I want them all to have an elegant updo and none of us knows how to do hair.
Post # 6
I don’t think the estimates are that insane. You figure $70*7= $490 plus hair and make up for you = $200 so that’s right about $700. Still expensive but I don’t think they are completely unreasonable.
I think if you require that they have it done you should pay. If you give them the option of doing it themselves and they choose to have it done they should pay. I let my BMs decide because I did not have the money to pay for it. They all chose to get their hair done anyways which I did appreciate but did not expect at all.
Post # 7
Personally, I wouldnt let anyone do my hair except for one of my normal stylists. The last wedding I was in the bride did not pay for our hair or makeup or…anything. We all got it professionally done. I’m not paying for my bridesmaids’ hair bc I dont care if it is done professionally or not. They are all choosing to have it done by their stylists though. However, I am VERY into makeup so I am paying a MUA $1600 to come and do makeup for 9 of us and stay all day.
Post # 8
@Mick26: You should only be paying for their hair and makeup if you are wanting them to do it a certain way. Maybe you could offer to pay for their manicures or pedicures?
Post # 9
thanks ladies! that makes sense to pay if i am asking them to have it done a certain way! As of right now, I really dont care what they do. If my mind changes, i will pay for their hair! 🙂
Post # 10
Yeah, unless you’re paying for it, it’s a little crazy to ask your BMs to get their hair and makeup professional done, IMO.
You can suggest how you would like it- ie up, down, half up, braided. And if they want it professionally done, they can figure it out.
Post # 11
I paid for their dresses, shoes, and hair/makeup. I let them choose however they wanted to wear their hair and make up and tell the lady.
I believe it was $55 for hair and makeup for my girls, and $70 for me.
Post # 12
I paid for half of each of my girls. I didn’t intend to but after they got the price they all decided they didn’t want to get their hair done. With the weather being 100 degrees though, and having your hair done being a nice thing, I cut the price in half by paying for half.
I’ve never had a bride pay for my hair and make up, I always assumed it was on me, and it always has been. However in the wedding i’m in next week she is paying for our hair and make up to be done which I think is nice. I’m opting out of the make up, I’d rather do my own.
Post # 13
I am paying for their dresses and for their hair/make up as well….I know that my bridesmaids are studying and their financial situation is not that great..so I belive that I have to pay…
Post # 14
I paid for my girls hair and makeup. I felt like if I wanted them to look nice in my wedding photos, I should pay. It was around 1600 for hair and makeup for the five of us.
Post # 15
Maybe it’s just me. I wouldn’t DREAM of being in someone’s wedding without getting my hair done professionally. Nails too. And it’s never been offered to me by the bride. And I never felt cheated out of something I was due, lol. If you want to do something nice, maybe manicures and/or pedicures? But hair? For 7 people? At $50+ a pop? Not happening.
Post # 16
wow that is an insane amount! I will probably only offer to pay for makeup that is about it if they would like their makeup done they will need to tell me. Because I know some people who know how to work around makeup can do it themselves.