- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
is anyone else paying for their wedding themselves?
we – I’d say for the most part are.
we’re right now trying to get a home equity loan, and if we can’t do that I will be taking a loan from my 401k to pay for it.
thing is – I DO want a big wedding – and we already have the venue booked, my mom already bought the dress (which as much as i LOVE my dress, i feel bad now because she spent over $1100 total for dress, accessories, etc…on her davids bridal credit card…)
but we are living paycheck to paycheck and while we’re having a “fancy” wedding for MUCH cheaper than most…(our venue, normally like a $20,000 place we got for $7500 because mr. junebride is a caterer and has done stuff there before, so he knows the guy…)
LUCKILY – the fact that mr. junebride IS a caterer, that right there is a huge relief as far as that goes…our food bill will be dirt cheap!
in fact, we’re thinking only about $15,000 for the whole day – and as I’m sure a lot of you know – for a “fancy” wedding at any big venue, that’s pretty danm good.
But I don’t know – I am just seriously beginning to feel SO much guilt for spending money we DON’T have.
PLUS – i was talking to my mom this morning and my brother, who lives outside of disney world in florida…he and his wife have a 1 and a half year old baby. my sister in law has a job, but my brother has been unemployed now for this entire year…he’s been trying and trying and TRYING to find a job – going EVERYWHERE – (he’s a mechanic) but he’s tried fast food, retail, gas stations, you name it – he can’t find anything…finally he got a job, showed up on the first day and they told him to go home because they decided to hire someone else!!!!!!!!!!!!
If I could snap my fingers and that would get him a job, I’d do it in a millisecond.
I’m not that close with him but that just absolutely peeeeves me off! 🙁 I have been praying every day for him to find a job because he is a very responsible guy and LOVES his family more than anything and is NOT the lazy bum type of guy – he just can’t find ANYTHING. my mom said he’s absolutely torn up inside about this and i actually feel guilty, too, because I just got a promotion and in another 6 months, after training, I’ll be making over $54K.
anyways…of course, though, even though mr. junebride and i MAKE good money together we STILL have NO money at the end of OUR checks either.
But because my brother’s in the bind he is, my mom and dad are doing everything THEY can to help him out (which they absolutely SHOULD do…) but my dad has been forced down to 4 days a week at HIS job, losing close to 1/3 of his paycheck!
I soooo want this wedding – I really do – but part of me is just beginning to feel SO incredibly guilty for wanting one. Like I’m being selfish.
I’ve tried to talk to DH about it and he keeps telling me “we’ll be fine – we’ll have our wedding and it’ll be great”
ugh! sorry i just needed to vent. please tell me i’m not the only bride out there feeling the guilt of the economy and wanting a wedding!!!!!!