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Paying for family at a destination wedding

posted 3 months ago in Family
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smiles4jo November 13, 2012

FI and I are considering a small destination wedding for close family only, followed by an at-home reception for everyone.

It is extremely likely that some of the family that I would want at the 'real' wedding wouldn't be able to afford to come. FI and I are willing to pay for them to come cause it's really important to me that they be there. My mom is saying that they wouldn't accept us paying for them.

That leaves me with getting married away without them (which I don't want) or getting married at home with them (which I also don't really want).

Anyone else in this same boat? How did you get around it?

3 months ago

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TwoCityBride April 1, 2013

I'm one of those people who feels weird about taking money even if its from a family member. Maybe you should leave your mom out of it, and call them and speak to them yourself and explain to them how important their presence is for you and that you have budgeted for it. If they don't want to take the money, consider asking them if you can make it a loan thath they pay back at their own pace(since you were willing to pay for it anyways). in the end although it hurts if they won't take it you have to accept their decisions. Good luck!

3 months ago