Post # 1
When Fiance and I decided to have a destination wedding, we knew that many of our most important family might not be able to make it because of the money. I couldn’t imagine getting married without my cousin (who’s more like my sister) by my side, so Fiance and I agreed to pay for the airfare and hotels for my cousin, her husband and her two kids. They’re extremely grateful and I feel like it’s a small price to pay to get my dream wedding and have the people who mean the most to me in attendance.
This cousin is also my Maid/Matron of Honor and only bridesmaid. Her two kids are my flowergirl and ring bearer. If we were getting married at home, I wouldn’t hesitate to get her a really nice bridesmaid gift to say thank you. However, I kinda feel like airfare and hotel for her entire family is pretty generous.
I don’t think I can not get her anything at all to open – I would just feel cheap. I think I’m going to feel cheap though regardless of what I buy her as a thank you. I’ll write her a really nice card, but does anyone have any ideas for a bridesmaid gift in this situation? Maybe fairly inexpensive jewelry to wear with her dress? Do I even need to give her a gift in this situation? Ack!
Post # 3
I would say no to the gift, you are being so generous. If you really want to get her something, maybe just a little charm for her bouquet? you could go to micheals ( or equivilant) and get an old timey picture fram charm and put in a pic of the two of you as kids. sentimental, inexpensive and she would love it im sure
Post # 4
Wow…this is tough. As an Maid/Matron of Honor, I wouldn’t expect a gift in this situation, but as the bride, I can understand why you would feel uncomfortable not giving one.
My vote would be to write out a nice card, and then print out a nice picture of you and her together on your wedding day. Buy a nice frame so that she can have it as a reminder of your time together. (Obviously, the gift would have to be delayed until you have your pro pics developed).
Post # 5
I think the card would be enough. I mean your gift is the travel to your wedding. What a nice thing to do.
Post # 6
The jerk in me wants you to get her and her family tourist tee shirts … or keychains?
Post # 7
I’d gift her (and possibly her kids too) with an experience of some sort at the destination. Since I don’t know where the destination is, it’s hard to suggest, but some ideas could be admission to the local aquarium, a sightseeing cruise (most cities have these, for under $20), or some other fun activity. That way you can still control the costs but give her something she will remember for a long time.
Post # 8
I am doing a destination wedding as well, and am paying for the hotel & air accommodations for my mother, and my handicapped sister and NO you do not need to purchase anything additional for them. If I were your cousin I would refuse any gift, knowing that you just paid thousands of dollars to get me there.
A simple card is sufficient. I know that it feels awkward to not have an “item” but think about the monumental sacrifice you made in getting them to your special event. I’m sure they appreciate and understand that.
Post # 9
I think a nice card and maybe something small she can use on the trip (i.e. travel sunscreen, flip flops, spf chapstick, etc), but I would keep the gift and card under $20. I think she’ll feel more than appreciated.
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Post # 11
lol i want to be your moh too :)!
i wouldnt expect a gift, but if youre set on it—-just do jewelry or something she can wear to wedding.
Post # 12
@Happy2bMrs: Oh I like the picture frame idea. It’ssentimental and fairly inexpensive.
@fishbone: The wedding is at Disney World. I considered buying her and her kids park tickets or something, but that gets awfully expensive awfully fast. 🙁