Post # 1
I got a massage yesterday with a giftcard. I was like $75, which is not a lot for NYC, but it still feels like a splurge. It was nice, but it wasn’t anything FI couldn’t do (it was at a kinda sketchy Asian nail salon). But he HATES massaging me! So I’m wondering, if I wanted a weekly massage, would he mind me spending $75? We share money and we’re pretty frugal. I don’t think he would mind though – that’s how much he hates doing it! What about your guys – would they rather pay for your massage or do it themselves?
Post # 3
My sister bought me a swedish massage at the Glen Ivy Hot Springs Spa. It was pricey, but it was amazing…. I am thinking of buying a couples session after the baby arrives. I think he will like it, since these girls really know what they are doing. The lady even pointed out that my neck was out of alignment and asked if I got headaches. I had no idea!
Post # 4
My DH likes giving me massages. They’re nice for intimacy purposes, but if I want a real massage I like going to a spa, (and he has no problem with me spending money on it).
Post # 5
Ughh. He’s snuggly/intimate in other ways, but sometimes I just need my back or feet or hands rubbed! I was literally thinking to myself yesterday while getting a massage, “this is why people go to prostitutes, to get what their SO won’t give them”!!! (Please don’t jump on me for saying that, I’m just being honest about what I was thinking.) Obviously it was only a massage and no funny business, but really, that’s how I felt. I even bought him a sensual massage kit for Valentine’s Day – no dice!
Post # 6
Luckily my FI likes giving me massages and cracking my back. He used to be a professional ballet dancer so he got a massage certificate to help other dancers with injuries back in the day. I have a lot of back pain so I’m glad for it. $75 doesn’t seem like a lot for NYC and if it fits into your budget I don’t see why not.
Post # 7
I personally would prefer to get one at a spa because his massages always are cut short by a hard on and sex. (TMI) hehe Although that is wonderful, I never really get the massage I want. hehe
Post # 8
@Mrs.Jansen: Hahaha yes, sometimes that’s a problem, especially if I’m like “YESSSSS! AAAHHHH!”
Post # 9
My FI massages me (somewhere or other) almost every night – back, shoulders, feet or wherever it hurts. He loves having his hands on me, lol, as much as I love having mine on him. I guess this saves us a lot of money, hmmmmm, never thought about it that way.
Post # 10
I think we both would rather pay someone than to give it to the other ourselves. We both can’t massage as hard as a professional (especially me) and we both run out of steam about 5 minutes into it. Haha.
Post # 11
FI says he does not mind giving massages (definitely thinks they are too expensive to pay for them!) BUT his massages are always a bit half-hearted in my opinion and often it just makes him want to have sex so they never last long.
I greatly enjoy giving and receiving massages, but I stopped giving since he doesn’t ever ask for them, and when he gives they are just kinda like a slightly more intense back scratch.
When I have the money (ie when I’m not a grad student), I’m going to start treating myself to a professional massage more often!
Post # 12
I loveeee massages! FI doesn’t like them. He doesn’t mind giving them.. but they’re never as long as I’d like. He’ll do it for less than a minute and think he’s done it for five! Although I just asked him if he’d rather do it or pay.. and he said he’d rather give me a good one. So we’ll see if he improves now! haha 🙂
Post # 13
Alex gives me massages several times a week, so I think he would actually get his feelings hurt if I went somewhere to pay for it.
Post # 14
Fortunately, FI loves me enough to massage my feet/back/legs/etc. with no complaints. He literally does this every day. It’s fantastic, and I love that he is willing to do it.
If he refused though, I’d definitely be going weekly to get one myself!
Post # 15
I used to get massages in college all the time — our health services had two pros who did them for a special student rate. I miss that SO much!
DH loves to give massages, and will frequently start without being asked. I massage him too, but he’s more sensitive and doesn’t enjoy it as much as I do.
For our honeymoon, I booked us a couple’s massage — his first pro massage ever! It was sort of entertaining to peek over at him, as the woman had to be very gentle and it took him forever to just relax. For me, it was the first full-body I’d had in a few years, so I was in heaven. My guy was very good, and focused entirely on the parts that really hurt from all the stress. Mmmm I want another one!!
I consider pro massages an indulgence now, but that’s because they’re not in the budget. If we had the funds, however, I’d basically consider it a household necessity. OP, if it’s within your means, DO IT! Stress relief is very important, you know ;D
Post # 16
While I like have DH’s hand on me, a professional massage is SOO much better than his. Sometimes I just needed to be worked on more than he can provide.