(Closed) Paying for our own bouquets? (Long, sorry!)

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1832 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You guys need to tell her NO as a group, you do not pay for your flowers!

Post # 4
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No, you should not pay for flowers for HER wedding. Tell her you don’t need to carry anything down the aisle. A dress and shoes are already expensive enough.

Post # 5
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

NONONO! Shit – why are brides so tacky sometimes?! You do not pay for your own flowers. If she has an issue with it say you’re just peachy going without flowers because what good are they anyway? They don’t do anything besides give you something to hold onto walking down the aisle. Men walk down without them just fine.


ETA Sorry about the swear I just got really worked up over the stupidity of that request.

Post # 6
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Uh, that is insane.

Bridesmaids NEVER pay for their flowers. At least not that I’ve ever heard of.

It sounds like either she’s extremely inconsiderate, or (more likely) she has no idea what she’s supposed to be paying for and what you’re supposed to be paying for. Someone needs to tell her.

Post # 7
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Really!???! So, she tried to make you buy 2 dresses because she changed her mind, and now wants you to pay for her wedding decor? This woman is ballsy. Ballsy and tacky.

Post # 8
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I haven’t heard anything about bridesmaids EVER having to pay for their own flowers.  Like PPs have said, all of you need to push back with a big NO.

Post # 9
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe she doesnt know what is standard?

I would probably respond if I didnt want to pay the $30 something like

“I wasnt aware we would pay for our own bouquets as its standard the bride pays for them. If you would like me to pay for my own I would prefer to carry a single flower of your choosing”

As an aside I would also make a comment to her (in a light hearted manner)

I havent seen or talked to you in so long. I would love to spend more time with you. I am in your wedding party after all arent we supposed to have fun together.

Post # 10
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ya you should not have to pay for your flowers. If she wants then that should be up to her to pay. That said I did have one bride tell me that she was having her bridesmaids pay for their bouquets, but thats the only other time I’ve heard of this.

Post # 11
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Paying for flowers? Hell no. That’s not right. Flowers are not necessary for weddings (we’re not doing bouquets for anyone but me and I am going to do fake ones). And is she making her mom pay for her corsage or her groomsmen pay for their bouts? If not, you shouldn’t be expected to pay for these without having some say in the design. 

Post # 12
227 posts
Helper bee

I second ThreeMeers’ suggestion. I can’t believe she asked you to pay for your bouquet. That’s so…strange. Are they dried or brooch bouquets or something you can keep? Even so, I’ve never heard of that. Sorry it’s put you in an awkward position!

Post # 13
2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

uhhh no no no. That’s not done. I would try to approach it lightheartedly at first, because maybe she really does’t know… and weddings can make normally sane people act kind of crazy, so I’d be gentle at first. But you SHOULD NOT have to pay for your flowers. It makes sense for bm’s to pay for their dresses and shoes, because they can keep them and potentially wear them again (you know, if you like it lol) or even try to sell them! But you can’t re-use flowers. I would be annoyed :/

Post # 14
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Like the other ladies said No, no no no NOOOOOO!!

That is so unbelievable TACKY! I couldn’t imagine asking my girls to pay for much. I’m even paying for their dresses! It’s traditional for them to pay for dresses & shoes but FLOWERS? No way. You should get together with the other Bridesmaid or Best Man and confront her as a group. I’m worried if you do it alone, you will be the bad person and WWIII will start.  

Post # 15
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

It is super inappropriate for her to ask you guys to pay for bouquets. 

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