Post # 1
I know proper etiquette would be to have an open bar and that would be my preferece, but doesn’t seem feasible with our budget. We both have big families and our guest list is at 250. With that in mind, we basically have two options to consider:
1. Drink tickets, each person would get two and then a cash bar option afterwards.
2. A set amount prepaid for the bar. After the wedding has reached that tab, it becomes a cash bar.
My fiance thinks option 2 is better, but I’m really torn. I don’t want only a few people to run out the tab nor do I want people to feel blindsided by the switch to cash bar. However, I’m not sure drink tickets are a better option. Any opinions?
Post # 3
I would go with option 2- amount bar. I really do not like drink tickets, but that is just me. Waht about doing a 1-2 hour hosted bar? It really depends on how much your venue charges for drinks.
Post # 4
i would go with option 2 🙂 although it depends on the price difference though!
Post # 5
I would do option 2. I prefer that over the drink tickets
Post # 6
Option two! I would make sure there is a warning before it goes to a cash bar. Do you have anyone that might drink a ton? If so, maybe you should tell them in advance to take it easy (for their own safety too).
Post # 8
What if instead of a full bar, you had free beer and wine and then had the liquor available for purchase. I don’t LOVE that option, but it’s better than drink tickets.
How much are you budgeting for alcohol?
Post # 9
My personal preference is for drink tickets OR for the bar to be open for 1-2 hours. I don’t like the option 2 as a guest because it can be a surprise and it can be a little annoying if some people are guzzling. I like to either have my tickets or know at what time the bar will switch to cash. It’s just nice to know what’s going to happen going into the evening, rather than at some random moment it turns to cash bar. That said, I prefer for the bar to be open for 1-2 hours as opposed to drink tickets. Open bar for the first couple of hours gets the party started
Post # 10
I would consider option 2 but just make sure to be fair to ALL of your guest and not let people know about it ahead of time. Because they might head to the bar and bring back a ton of drinks knowing that they don’t have to pay for it. And leaving poor grandma who doesn’t know, paying for all of her drinks. Just a thought. I know I considered that because my DH’s side are a bit on the alcoholic drinks are required side.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone. Doing a host bar for the first hour or two could work. If not, we’ll probably go with option 2.
@Oracle- we asked about hosting the wine and beer, but the venue said there wouldn’t be a price difference if we did that.
Post # 12
We are putting $1000 down for open bar – once it is done, then it becomes cash bar! I have a lot of family members that don’t drink so I thought it would be pointless to pay per person/per hour.
Post # 13
If you go with option number 2… maybe ask the company that is in charge of the bar how much alcohol they typically go through each hour, then adjust it based your the drinking habits of your family and friends. At my FI’s cousin’s wedding, they had several thousand dollars for a 100 person wedding for the bar amount and they met that during cocktail hour! They agreed to keep the bar open for the rest of the night (no charge to guests), but I’m sure it was really expensive. So basically, take into account how much your guests will likely drink.
Post # 14
I like the drink tickets option out of the 2 because although it may not be ideal, it makes it more fair and everyone gets the same amount without some taking advantage of it. I like the 1-2 hr hosted bar thing, as well. I think as long as you inform the guest with either option about what’s going on, it shouldn’t be a problem. Can yall do 1 or 2 signature drinks hosted by yall?
Post # 15
I know I’m in the minority but I like the ticket idea. I don’t understand why everyone is so negative about it. They could be cute and it seems so much nicer for everyone to be able to have a glass of wine or two instead of just a few people who might get to the bar faster and drink a lot. IMHO
Post # 16
@lynnabby- That was my thinking too. I just don’t want only a few people to receive the benefits of the hosted bar.
I guess ultimately I have to figure out what option is most cost effective. We’ve budgeted for about $2,500.