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Nope, I don't plan to pay for their dresses at all. I also will allow them to choose their own dress as long as it meets a few set guidelines and of course a final "okay" from me.
However, I do plan to pay for their hair.
Nope not paying for their dresses. With that being said I did not pick dresses that were very expensive or that I wouldn't feel comfortable paying.
I had a 10,000 budget and BM dresses weren't in my budget. However, I did let my BM's pick their own dresses based on my criteria (color and length). The BM's with less money found great deals and all of them were able to find dresses to fit their style and body type. They all said they would wear it again!
I did pay for my BM's hair and makeup as their "thank you" gift to them - I also got them a small clutch purse to carry on the wedding day.
I got a "deal" since the hair and makeup artist is a friend (otherwise I would have just got them all hair and had them all pay their own makeup).
I have been in 4 wedding thus far and have always had to buy my own dress - so I think its very common to have to buy your own dress. However I would have LOVED to pick out my own dress. :)
I'm letting my girls choose their own dresses with just a few guidelines from me and I'm offering to help them pay for the dress. I figure I should at least offer to help them pay because I'm telling them they have to buy a dress that they otherwise would not have bought. We are doing the same thing for our guys. They are wearing suits, but because not all the guys have black suits we are offereing to help them buy a black suit. We had decided this when we made our budget... and also because people are going to be traveling and we didn't want to add more costs to them.
I bought my MOH's dress because she was having financial issues. Everyone else is going to buy their own. They get to pick with only a couple guidelines.
I paid because we are having a destination wedding and felt bad about the costs for travel and accomodations. The dresses I found were both retail so were very cheap, but super cute. That being said, I have been in several weddings and have never had my dress paid for by the bride even partially, so I don't think you should worry at all about making them pay. It's traditional, and I think most people are aware of that when they accept being part of the bridal party. And I didn't get any say in what I was wearing for any of them.
I didn't pay for the dresses, however...I took my sister (MOH) and cousin (16yrs old and a BM) shopping and had them try on dresses they liked and some that I picked out...they both LOVED the dress I really wanted. I am willing to pay to have the dresses altered after the ceremony...because I don't want to see the dresses hang in a closet and never be worn again. In fact, I am thinking of buying one of the dresses for me...I LOVE it that much!
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I am also having a Destination Wedding and only a MOH so we are paying for her dress...my mom is paying for her hair/makeup (along with mine!). But she will be covering the alterations to the dress and shoes/accessories! I also bought her a hair flower to wear!
Where I am from, it is more uncommon for the bride to pay for the dresses than not. They expect to pay and have me pick the dress (or general style/brand/whatever), but I will stay conscious of their budgets.
I'm not paying for their dresses, and I'm letting them wear pretty much whatever they want. I told them the dresses should be yellow, but beyond that they can get anything that makes them happy!
my BMs are paying for their own dresses. we really can't afford to buy their dresses. i picked the style & the colors. i did make sure i picked something that they could wear again on its own or have altered and wear again. i also found something that i knew i would be comfortable paying for. (oh & it didnt hurt that they get 10% off from the bridal salon!). im having them wear their hair down & straight and letting them wear black dress shoes of their own (no sense in buying shoes when you cant see them). i figured that would save them a lot of money. Most BMs know that theyre supposed to pay for their dress unless theyre told otherwise.
@Miss Lily - my girls are wearing those too!! i love them & i sooooo want one for myself!!! :)
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I am paying for the my BM dresses. I also just graduated college. However I am only having 3 girls and these are my closest friends and they are special to me. Had I had a larger Bridal party I would not have paid for the dresses. They are picking out their own shoes.
I am not paying for their dresses but I am buying their shoes and will pay for their hair and/or make up for the wedding. I found a line of dresses that they can pick their own style and made sure it was affordable.
Yes, I am paying for their dresses. But there are only 2 BMs and they are my younger sisters. We are really close and have similar taste in clothing so it should be easy.
I live in Arizona and one of my sisters lives in Washington and the other in Michigan. We probably will not all be in the same place at the same time until the wedding in October. Although, I have been sending them ideas online to get their opinion.
BMs will be paying for their own shoes and their flights back to our hometown for the wedding.
We're paying for the BMs and GMs attire because we're having a DW too. We only thought it was fair because they're paying for their trip to Aruba!
But in the weddings I've been in, as a BM I've always paid for my own dresses and shoes.
I'm paying for my BMs dresses. There are 4 of them and I didn't want them to have to pay for a dress that they wouldn't have purchased if it wasn't for my wedding and I also have BMs who have to fly back for the wedding and fly for my bachelorette. I picked the color and they are allowed to pick their own dress style. And since the girls all know I'm in grad school, they will be reasonable with their picks.
We are not paying for the girls dresses or shoes. I picked the shoes but the girls could choose the dress as long as it was short and green. The dresses were around $100 and shoes were $60. I am buying thier jewelry, purses, and little stuff like insoles and such. I am willing to pay for hair/make-up although one girl is a hairstylist and another has a sister who will probably do her hair and make-up.
I think for the GM's we will have them wear matching shirts and ties which we will pay for and have them wear their own black pants and shoes. If I can talk them into vests we will pay for those too. Mostly because we cannot think of good gifts.
Paying for their dresses, hair, and MU. They'll be taking care of their own shoes and accessories. So I probably won't get them a big gift at the end like a lot of brides seem to do--maybe just a small piece of jewelry and a thank you note.
We are paying for our BM's dresses. They can pick out whatever shoes and accessories they like.
We are paying for the outfits, hair, makeup, and 2 night hotels stay for both the bridesmaids and and the groomsmen. We are having a destination wedding too, I can't imagine them taking off work, paying for flights, and rental cars without us helping out someway.
I am paying for their BM dresses and leaving hair/makeup/shoes up to them. I just asked that the shoes match and left it to my 3 girls to decide on shoe style and color. And I will get them a small thank you gift.
I would gernally say no way, I won't be paying for their dresses. BUT two of my BM are doing hair and make up for the wedding party so I figured I would pay for theirs. I am not going to make this known to the rest of the bridal party, this way there will be no hurt feelings. I am going to let them pick out what they like as long as everyone has the same color and length dress. I dont want my girls spending a lot of money on a dress they may never wear again!
@miss Lily...that is the dress my sister chose for her bridesmaids...black with a yellow sash.
As MOH...my dress is different...and all black but I secretly wanted the one you chose.
EDIT: We are paying for our own dresses and shoes for the wedding. The bride and room are gifting us with yellow chuck taylors for the reception =)
I'm not paying for their dresses. I am picking the style and color, but trying to keep the price low-like $120 and under. I am paying for their make-up and night before renting the hotel suite.
we are not paying for their dresses or shoes-- but I did do some searching and found the dresses on sale, and since I purchased my dress at david's bridal-- they gave me a coupon for $20 off. I'm also planning on them just wearing flip flops so those also will be inexpensive. As we were unable to help pay for the dresses-- I did my best to find something I liked and that wasn't too expensive.
I'm not paying for the BM dresses. I don't know of any friends of mine that ever paid for their BM dresses, BTW. BM's generally pay for their own these days.
I chose the color and the length and am allowing my BM's to choose their own style. The same goes with the shoes.
I am making satin and chiffon rosette hair combs for their hair, giving them gifts that I will make myself and providing hair/makeup on the day of the wedding. It would be far too expensive to pay all the expenses for my BMs. However, my FMIL has offered to make the flower girl dresses, so that is one cost that the mothers won't have.
nope, my bridesmaids paid for their dresses... and will be buying their own shoes ( i have no pref on what they choose to wear )
Nope, my MOH paid for her own dress :) as well as her shoes...
I am buying her a clutch, jewelry, etc though :)
Nope not paying. Not picking a specific dress either though; if I were demanding the ladies wear a ridiculously expensive dress I would probably pay, since I don't really think that's fair. But, since it's not in my budget to pay for everyone's dresses, I am letting them pick whatever they like, with minor stipulations [colour/length].
Every wedding I've BM'd in I've had to pay for my dresses; however the brides were pretty reasonable and picked designers over dresses. I've paid less than 300$ for my BM dresses, which is the limit of what I consider 'resonable' for someone elses wedding. were the expenses more, I probably wouldn't have been in the wedding party.
I've been a BM...seven times? Anyway, I've always had to pay for my own dress. I even had to make half of the dresses once!
I wanted my BMs to wear a specific dress/color, so I bought them their dresses. I gave them free reign on shoes though, to ensure that they were comfortable and something they would wear again.
I think it depends where you live also. And whether or not you are requiring a certain dress or suggesting a color and letting your girls pick their own style.
First and last time as a BM, had no choice in what I was wearing as the bride picked out the bridesmaids dresses, and sadly I had to pay!
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I am paying for my BM dresses, the hair and make up as well. I only ask for their shoes to be cohesive. I'm also getting my girls a small thank you gift. My MOH tells me since I am paying for the dresses, that I should just choose the dress for them and have them wear it, since one of my BM's is giving me a headache about what type of dress she wants to wear, which may NOT be within my budget,
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Hi all! I was just curious if you were going to pay for your bridesmaids dresses and shoes or have them pay for it themselves?
I had thought of having them pay for their own dresses & shoes and we will be paying for their manis, pedis, and probably hair. We are having a semiformal event, on a $12,000 budget, we are already over and I should mention my parents are footing the bill. His parents cannot contribute, and financially we are not able to contribute, he's in medical school and I am just about to graduate college.
Anyway, just curious what everyone else was going to be doing?
PS - if you are NOT paying for their dresses, are you still choosing styles, colors, etc., and wha about their budget?