Paying the Clerk?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@NadiaN:  Yes, I would pay them- they almost certainly have a set fee.

If by some stroke of luck you’ve found a stranger who moonlights as a volunteer officiant who wants to spend their day at your ceremony for nothing, tip the hell out of them and definitely invite them to your reception.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Have you already contacted a clerk who has agreed to do this for you? I’m having a family member officiate, but while I was initially searching, all the officiants- both religious and civil- that I found had clear fee structures listed on their websites. So if you’ve already found someone, just ask her what her usual fee is. If you don’t have one already lined, how much they charge should be part of the initial communication- ie, are they available on your date, how much do they charge, what does that include (will they provide their own vows/a reading, will they meet with you in advance, is it extra for them to travel to your venue, etc).

 

The alternative is having someone you know get ordained through the Universal Life Church:http://www.themonastery.org. It’s free, it takes about ten minutes, it’s legit, and in most states it’s totally valid for performing a marriage. If you go that route I would still tip them- a gift card to a restaurant would be nice if they’re a friend or family member.

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@NadiaN:  This is something a quick phone call should cover. In our town you need to go in and pay the fee with the clerks office before the wedding (usually day of) if the wedding is at a separate location but they do have a standard fee regardless of where you have the wedding. It would be awful to not bring it up and just pay her what you feel like, you may end up short changing her of the regular fee or risk her not being able to complete the ceremony if you had to pay it in advance or something.

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