Post # 1
It seems that lately I am seeing a lot more couples engaging in PDA at church. I’m not talking just something briefly but like couples who can’t seem to keep their hands off each other through the whole service. In my opinion church just isn’t the place for that.
Is such behavior common in your church? Does your church approach this issue?
Post # 2
Are you talking about holding hands/etc or making out?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I’ve actually always noticed this to some extent and it annoys me.
I see couples rubbing each others backs/shoulders while sitting side by side to each other. Or a guy constantly running his fingers through the woman’s hair for like the whole service! Some just hold hands but that’s not as noticeable to me or bothersome. It’s the active constant touching one another playing with each other’s hair etc that annoys me. No making out either, but sometimes constant little pecks…also annoys me.
It’s never addressed and I think people ignore it or some people think it’s sweet that the couple is “so in love”…
I am a much more private person and not into too much PDA no matter where I am so I am biased.
Post # 4
Kacey23: Yeah, define PDA. I’m just fine holding hands and putting my arm around my guy in church. Heck, I’ll put my arm around anyone, anywhere!!
Post # 5
Kacey23: FI and I hold hands at church or he’ll put his arms around me. We don’t make out or kiss at all. But I see nothing wrong with a little bit of affection – a hug, a kiss on the cheek, holding hands. Making out isn’t affection – it’s foreplay!!!
It is going a little too far ANYWHERE to be making out or constantly kissing in public.
Ms_Purple: Those “it’s so sweet” people are crazy! I don’t think PDA makes anyone seems more “in love” – just more vomitous. Blah! Like the people that are constantly posting on FB – “OMG, I love my FI, so-and-so, so very much! He is my whole world and I would never be able to live without him!!!!” And I get judged for posting NOTHING about my FI – I guess we aren’t “in love”.
LilRhodyGem: Me too! I’m a hugger!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
donna_saur: Exactly, interestingly enough all my friends who post FB updates like that are miserable in their relationships when I talk to them in person. I don’t get it!
Post # 7
Depends on what you mean about PDA. I ususally hold hands with my husband during church. Sometimes we’ll put an arm around the other or I’ll rest my head on his shoulder. But we don’t make out or anything. We’re married. I don’t think God cares.
Post # 8
Ms_Purple: That is exactly what I’m talking about! It can be pretty distracting. I have seen a few couples making out through the years but it’s uncommon.
Post # 9
I think it is sweet when the couple holds hands or he puts his arm around her. I like seeing married couples that actually look in love. Any more than that in church is distracting and not appropriate.
Post # 10
I don’t even like couples doing any sort of over the top PDA (that means, excluding an arm around their SO’s chair etc.) unless they’re by themselves on a date. None of your friends want to see that, so keep it for private time.
Post # 11
Inappropriate if it makes single and lonely people feel awful.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2015 - Church
my FI will kiss me quick on the cheeks at the end of the worship part of the service just before the pastor begins to preach and at first it drove me nuts, but now I don’t care so much. That being said I don’t like it when couples give back massages in church, its distracting.
Post # 13
My fiance hold hands and he puts his arm around me. That’s as far as it goes. I don’t see a problem with that. We love each other and that is an expression of it. God is love is love so I don’t think He cares about us holding hands or Fi having his arm around my shoulders 🙂
Post # 14
Ah no! Not acceptable. If it was happening someone would say something to him.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
“Judge not, or you, too, will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, so shall you be judged.”
— Matthew 7:1-2
I feel like making public complaints about the behaviors of other people while they’re attending church is a little … idk, unChristlike? Unless they’re literally fornicating in the pews? #UnpopularOpinions