Post # 1
I recently purchased pearl and swarovski crystal necklaces for my bridesmaids. I hope the girls will wear them with their dresses for the wedding and long after the wedding as well. I saw a post once that said it’s not okay to have a gift that does double duty, look of the wedding + gift… so I’m wondering if the necklaces an appropriate gift?
I bought the necklaces from Na Hoku: http://www.nahoku.com/jewelry-type/necklaces/sterling-silver-necklace-with-white-freshwater-pearls-and-swarovski-crystals.html
(btw the picture on line makes the pearls appear somewhat dull, in person the crystals sparkle and the pearls are quite white)
Post # 3
My SIL gave us necklaces, clutches and monogrammed bags. We used the clutches and necklaces and I loved them. Only had a chance to wear the necklace once afterwards, and almost wore it at my own wedding. It’s not something I would ever have bought for myself but I love knowing it’s there for me to use if the occasion comes along!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
For the bridesmaid’s gifts you’re supposed to shop for them like it’s their birthday, not “gift” them accessories they need for YOUR day (even if they would wear/use them again).
Post # 5
I voted “yes”, but do think that if you could afford to, something small in addition to the necklaces would be really nice. They don’t have to be expensive, but just something special to each individual bridesmaid perhaps! Framed photo of you with them, or things you know they’ve wanted, etc..
Post # 6
The last bridesmaid gift I’ve recieved was a Swarovski necklace, and I loved it! I think it’s a great gift :).
Post # 7
I’m not personally bothered by that type of bridesmaid gift even though it’s the rule that you’re not supposed to give a gift that you expect them to use on the wedding day. The only thing is, jewelry is personal. I never wear choker-style necklaces because I have a big head and I think they are more flattering on women with normal-sized heads. If you bought it for me and wanted me to wear it at the wedding I wouldn’t mind, but I might not wear it again. But I’ve never gotten a bridesmaid gift that was really a keepsake. I wasn’t in it for the gifts, that’s for sure!
Post # 8
I think it depends on whether you think the necklaces fit the bridesmaids’ personal styles. My sister in law included the necklaces we were supposed to wear for her wedding in our gift bags. They were lovely, but really not my style and I haven’t worn it since the wedding, so it wasn’t really much of a “gift” per se, but more of a “if the bride wants the bridesmaids to wear a specific necklace, it’s polite to buy it for them.” She also got us monogrammed tote bags, which I loved and use often, so I think of that as the gift, more so than the necklace.
Post # 9
I love the necklaces and think they are beautiful. If you are able to give them something more personal in addition, that would be a nice idea. I liked Pengoala’s idea of a framed photo and even a personal letter would be super thoughtful! Beautiful choice on the necklaces!
Post # 10
@crystalrae: Yes, I agree, I forgot to mention I’ll be writting each of them a personalized letter thanking them for being there for me before, during and after the wedding.
I’m doing welcome bags for all of my guests (we’re having a destination wedding) so maybe I could include a little something extra in their guest bags that’s not really wedding related.
Post # 11
I voted yes, although I may be biased as I’ve got my BMs pearl necklaces as one of their gifts and also to wear on the day. Those necklaces are stunning, I would be over the moon to receive one as a gift!
I’m also making all of our BMs and the Mums a “pamper hamper” and giving it to them a couple of days before the wedding, each one will include:
– A bottle of their favourite wine
– A little box of chocolates
– A face mask and some nice bubble bath
– A nice lipstick/lipgloss
– A copy of a magazine/book they’ll like
– A card detailing how much they mean to me and how I hope that pamper hamper will give them back some time for themselves seeing as they’ve spent so much time helping me with my wedding.
Perhaps you could include something pampering for them?