- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Alright, if you read my last post you have probably already asked me about etiquette versus tradition, so I’m goign to approach my point from a different angle.
I am constantly hearing that certain things are “rude” regarding a brides choices for her wedding.
It is rude to have a cash bar
It is rude to ask for money instead of gifts
it is rude to provide pizza and not a real meal
It is rude to allow/ask guests to bring anything
I have also seen a lot of people put down a brides choices that don’t involve etiquette
It is too casual to dress like that
It takes away from the elegance to do that
Here is how I see it. A wedding doesn’t ALWAYS have to be a huge hosted event as long as you make that clear. It CAN be an event where people mutually contribute in different ways. It can be an event where you all go out to eat after and each person pays their own. It can be an event where you choose to ahve it be a potluck. You just need to make it clear what it is going to be like.
I’m not hosting my wedding because I want a big huge day all about me. I’m hosting it because we have family and friends who love us and would be more disappointed in not being part of our wedding then if we asked them t:
-Bring their own camping chairs to our outdoor picnic wedding
-Don’t provide free alcohol but let them bring theirr own
-Don’t have stamped RSVP envelopes
AS LONG AS WE LET THEM KNOW what the situation was going to be.
Now for the record we are providing chairs and alcohol, but so what if we weren’t is my point.