Post # 1
So I know it’s proper to send an individual invite to each person who is over 18 living still at home. But what do I do for save-the-dates, which are kind of informal and future invites when there are two people over 18 still at home?
I have John & Jan Doe (parents) who are getting a s-t-d plus their daughter, Patty Doe and their son Roger Doe who are also over 18. That means three s-t-d’s would have to go to their home?! Isn’t that kind of silly?
As for the invites I have no problem sending separate invites, but then again, three to the same house? We aren’t doing inner envelopes so I could probably cheat that way.
Post # 3
I probably broke all etiquette rule with my STC, but in those situations and my cousins off in college, I put John and Jane Smith and family.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I only sent one STD per address. I followed more formal rules for invites. Just make sure all of their names are on it so that the adult children know they should save the date, too. 🙂
Post # 5
I did the same thing Miss Spaniel did: one STD per household, but individual invites!
Post # 6
I broke all the rules. I sent 1 STD per household and 1 invite per household except for cases where there were two families in one house. Like my cousin, her hubby and son are currently residing at her father’s house, so I sent one for each family.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! I guess I was just didn’t want the s-t-d postcard to be too wordy for the “to” section.
Post # 8
BUMP. Can I revive this old post? I’m in the same situation and I’m wondering if the consensus is still the same.
I plan on sending individual invitations to adult children (18+, post-high school) living at home.
But what about save the dates? It seems silly to send 2-4 save the dates to one location. I did the math and it turns out I can send out half the save the dates if I send one per household.
Post # 9
I’m doing one per household:-) and just send invites separately.
Post # 10
This is etiquette I really don’t care about and can’t get behind. My three cousins all go to school in their hometown and live with their parents, I’m not sending 4 invites to the same house. When the invites go out the oldest will probably get his own invite because he has a girlfriend that will be invited, but the other two just on the parents invite.
I was 24 years old, living with Fiance (then BF) out of the country and I still got invited on my parents’ invite to two weddings and I couldn’t have cared less.