Post # 1
So I’m pretty sure ya’ll will agree with me… at least I hope.
I really want to start working on losing weight. When I was a senior in high school I was at my heaviest. A whopping 220 pounds (I’m only 5’1). I lost the majority of the weight in 2010 (60 pounds in 7 months). After realizing just how heavy I was and how amazing I felt after losing it I promised myself that I’d NEVER EVER get that big again. I caught on to something real quick. Any time I was in a relationship I gained mad weight. Well, it’s happened again. After losing all of that weight and keeping it off for close to a year I met my now fiance. After a year, I’m slowly creeping up to that 200 mark.
With all of that being said, the main reason I’m writing this post follows below.
Am I wrong to want to lose weight considering my dress was already ordered? When I ordered my dress the consultant said not to lose or gain weight. I told my Future Mother-In-Law that I really want to lose the weight and she said not to. Her reasoning? Because I was already fitted for my dress. It was the first fitting. I have a little under 4 months to do this. Am I wrong to be a bit upset with her response? I mean, I understand why she’s saying it but at the same time I’m doing it to better myself. They can always take it in. I’m sure I may be over analyzing what she said and shouldn’t take it to heart but we’re talking about my health here which may be the reason why I’m dwelling on it. She’s not the only one who says that I shouldn’t do anything either. However, my brother, bridesmaids, Mother and other friends and family all agree that I should do it.
I guess my question is what would you do? How would you react? I was told to do nothing but there’s so many brides out there who lose weight or continue to lose weight up until their final fitting. I’m going to do it for myself regardless but am curious as to what you gals think about the whole dress situation.
Post # 3
Look at it this way:
If losing weight is a component in a larger quest to be healthier, then why would you let a dress get in your way? It’s a wedding dress, and expensive, and I get that, but talk about being a “slave to fashion.”
I say, go ahead. Be reasonable and embark on a sensible plan, and chances are, if you lose weight, they’ll be able to take the dress in. If you lose so much weight that you have to get an entirely new dress…will that honestly bother you?
Post # 4
IMO you are absolutly right! Di it for you and maybe just dont even mention it at all to Future Mother-In-Law. I’m thinking your next dress fitting could go something like ” OH wow! huh, looks like I lost a little weight! hmm how odd…” lol! I aould think my Future Mother-In-Law was odd too if i were in your situation. It sounds like you are making a healthy choice to lose the weight! much luck to you!
Post # 5
A material dress is nothing compared to your health and the way you will feel about yourself when you lose the weight. Absolutely lose the weight, but do it in a reasonable and healthy way. Do not let anyone who says not to, get to you. The more in shape you are, the better you will look on your day and in pictures, and more importantly, you will be on a path to a much healthier version of you! Good luck!
Post # 6
IMO and any other sane person on the planet would say it’s no ones business but your own how much weight you want to lose, especially not your Future Mother-In-Law. I don’t know what twilight zone alternate reality she lives in, but that is one of the stupidest things i have ever heard and i’ve heard a lot of stupid things- is what Fiance said ( dang tell us how you really feel huh?)
Post # 7
@BothCoasts: Such great points. Couldn’t have said it better.
Post # 8
@BothCoasts: I didn’t pay for my dress so I’d be SOL.
Post # 9
THANK YOU LADIES! :] I’m not off my rocker after all. I really, sincerely appreciate the luck and response from you all. It’s encouraged me even more to do what’s best for me.
Post # 10
I am in the same situation. My dress is being made and I had my measurements taken in Jan and they were very strict saying I must not loose/gain weight. I agreed with them face to face but knew I was not going to get married at that weight. I had about 30 lbs to loose and started a VLCD 10 days ago. I have lost 11lbs thus far and continue to stay on it right up until the week before the wedding day. I have a dress fitting 5 weeks before the wedding then another one the week before the wedding.
As far as I am concerned the dress is supposed to fit me, not me fit the dress. If they need to take it in here and there then so be it. There is no way I am letting a seamstress dictate what size I am on my wedding day. I want to look back at the pictures with no regret!
As for people who don’t support your weightloss don’t discuss it with them as it will affect your ability to stick to the diet. I haven’t discussed it with my parents as I know they won’t agree and I dont need to hear it. My fiance is uber supportive and that’s all that matters.
Good luck to you!!
Post # 12
@ArmyWife8806: Everyone has a vision of how they want to look for a wedding day. If you want to lose weight, don’t let anyone or anything get in your way. At the end of the day, you have to look the way you want to look. Besides, the dress should fit you, you shouldn’t fit the dress. Go for it!
Post # 13
@ArmyWife8806: If you want to lose weight, go ahead. The dress can be taken in and you will be happier with your wedding photos
Post # 14
my dress fit perfectly when I got it, but I got in a place where i wanted to lose weight and I struggled for a few weeks about “to lose, or not to lose” and then I decided I was being absurd because if I lost enough weight to make THAT much of a difference and the dress couldn’t be taken in then eff it, I’ll buy a NEW clearance dress!
I started at 230 and my wedding is in august, since it sounds like you might be in plus too they say it’s about 20 lbs to change a full dress size down.
here is mine when I bought it- just for funsies because I love it
Post # 15
I ordered a size 16 dress. I am now a 12. Oh well, it can be altered. If it can’t, I’ll figure something out.
I’m getting married in September, and my seamstress told me to come in in late July. She told me I had to maintain from then out. I suggest talking to a seamstress and getting a similar ‘maintain’ deadline, if you can do that. I’m going to have fun with that. I’m a cronic yo-yoer. Maintaining is not my strong suit.
And I understand you. Love makes me fat. I’m trying to find a medium.