People are confused by my RSVP card?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Are you confused by my RSVP?
    No, I'm not an idiot. : (97 votes)
    88 %
    Yes... what? : (13 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Uh oh. This is how I plan on formatting mine. I hoped it would help clarify whose dates and kids are invited without going into complicated titles and addresses and inner envelopes… Makes perfect sense to me!

    Post # 4
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think it’s great!! 2 of my friends got married recently and we were talking about how people left the M_________ blank on theirs!  Like they didn’t understand what they they were supposed to with it, which is pretty ridiculous ! Lol so they had rsvps filled out with no ones name on it. I will be doing what my one friend did and numbering the back of the rsvps with the black light ink pen so if we get any of those back I can get who’s it is off the number:) try not to let other peoples cluelessness stress you out!

    Post # 5
    3016 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    Then they are dingdongs.

    There is nothing confusing about them.

    Post # 7
    22125 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ve found that some people don’t understand the M______ line but I think that’s more on them than on you, as that’s a pretty common convention for RSVP cards. And a pretty easy thing to Google and figure out. 🙂

    Post # 9
    1625 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Italiandoll:  I think thats what confuses people, the M____________

    A lot of people just don’t get formal RSVPs! I know a lot of people just write “Names” so theres no room for confusion

    Post # 10
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Pinkmoon:  mine are super causal though… mine says Who’s coming? with a blank space underneath. The M_________ thing has never made much sense to me, though I’m not a ding dong and know how to fill it out! haha But realistically, I’m dealing with a bunch of college students. I can tell you now who wouldn’t know what to do with a M_______. sigh.

    Post # 11
    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think those are sooo cute!! Love them!
    The best advice I got while wedding planning was find a way to know who is sending back the RSVP. For me, I put an address label with their name on it, on the RSVP envelope! I also included our Address label, and the stamp. All they had to do was check yes or no MAYBE put their name (A couple DID forget!) and seal the envelope! After making it so easy, I was still shocked by how many people we had to call, because they assumed if they weren’t going we didn’t need to know….. (I’m guessing that’s what went through their heads) 

    Post # 12
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    Hey you did an AMAZING JOB… they look lovely.

    The problem has to be the M_______________ thing.

    I don’t understand the problem personally, it seems pretty clear to me in how an RSVP Card is worded… it needs you to put your name somewhere… BUT evidently “some” people who’ve never seen one are confused by it.

    Which is why some Brides now are resorting to skipping out on the “M” and just putting in lines or adding “Guest” below them, like this:




    Hope this helps,


    Post # 13
    6692 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Once upon a time, and to this day in traditional etiquette circles, people  would be surprised or even offended to think someone had to spoon feed them by supplying stationery and stamp, let alone a big capital M prompt or the implication they can’t read or be trusted to  know who was invited. 

    Your FI’s friends, I suspect, know exactly where they are supposed to put their names and are wondering snarkily why they have to write anything at all if you’ve already reserved their seats for them.  They may consider themselves more proper, but what they are is disgracefully rude.

    Alternatively, they aren’t too bright. 

    Post # 14
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    When I had never seen an RSVP card before, I didn’t understand the M____ thing. I just put M___sue_smith____ because I figured that’s where my name went, lol!

    To avoid confusion, mine said:

    ___ of 3 will attend

    Names: _____________________________

    Post # 15
    2051 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    What’s the M for? Is it so you can write “Mr Brown” or “Miss Green”? I would probably just put my name down anyway but I can understand why that’s confusing people. I’ve never seen an RSVP card like that before and I wouldn’t respond as “Miss Audrey2” – maybe that’s poor etiquette on my part.

    BUT I love your meal choice pictures! So cute.

    Post # 16
    6455 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Gemstone:  +1 on people not understanding the M____.

    But that’s totally on them! DH picked up an RSVP card that was very straight forward a few weeks ago and asked where to put our names. When I pointed at the M______ line he told me he didn’t understand because his name doesn’t start with an “M.” It seems as though people in our generation just don’t know what that means.


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