- Mrs Christopher
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
So since I am far from home I’ve only been asked the proposal story once at my (now) old job, oh and once by a friend that said well if it’s a special story to you then that’s all that matters. Keep not getting a great reaction so I haven’t told it since. I have been on this board for about two months now and since you ladies are all awesome I think I’d like to tell the sorry.
So for background, it all started about a year ago when we moved to Colorado. We had had the serious wedding discussion for the third time. He asked me to look at rings and no matter what I looked at I didn’t like it. Then I remembered that my grandma’s setting might still be around even though it was damaged. I asked around and it was given to me. My now FI’s reaction was overall positive because he had something he couldn’t work on but his first comment was “wow that’s a big hole!”
Fast forward a year and we were looking at houses. We he had found that the VA would only approve me to be on a loan with him if I was his wife, he called me to tell me at work. I said oh well then that’s a bummer. But he said well how about it I wouldn’t hate being married to you. My face turned bright red and I told him we would have to have this discussion at home. When I got home that night we talked some more and agreed that we could get married but not just because we wanted a house, it would be because we truly do love each other and had been talking about it forever anyway.
I furiously searched the internet for diamonds that I thought would be nice, I sent him links. When he got home at the end of the next day he seemed bummed that he couldn’t find anything that he could afford. We went to go do laundry and I told him we could just get a white sapphire ring from Wal-Mart for now and drop the diamond in grandma’s ring when we could find one that was both pretty and affordable. I wasn’t super thrilled with the idea but I loved him and I knew he would put a diamond in there when he could afford it and I really wanted a ring of any sort to show that we were engaged.
Well when we came home he told me he would bring up all the laundry and that I should go walk the dogs. I was really tired and didn’t feel like walking them but I did for a little while. I was starting to bring them up the stairs when he was still putting the laundry in and he said that I should just walk them a little longer because he didn’t get to earlier that day. I was kind of annoyed but I walked them for longer, as I was walking up the stairs for the second time all crabbily I opened the door and saw him on one knee with grandma’s ring beautiful restored with an awesome diamond, I was speechless and shocked. I don’t remember if there were any words but I ran up to him kissed him and hugged him and I think I said yes. My FI told me I dropped the leashes and forgot to close the door behind me out of shock.
Afterward we were sitting on the bed and I couldn’t believe it. I just sat there staring at it not believing it was the same ring. Then I thought omg I have to go to work tomorrow and do a presentation with this thing. Well me being the private person I just walked into work as if nothing had happened. In the lab we wear gloves so mostly no one would notice unless I was in my cube. I wasnt in my cube until lunch time and that is when someone noticed. One of the engineers walked by and then did a double take and said oh my god are you engaged? I told her yea and then her eyes bugged out and she said it’s so huge. And I of course turned bright red. Then she told other girls and before I knew it I had a line of people outside my cube. They were surprised I didn’t walk in and say anything but I am really not close with most of them and I figured at some point someone would notice and I could just talk about it then and then people would hopefully not bug me about it again. I then got all kinds of unwanted wedding advice and then when I told the story only the part about him bringing in the laundry – leash – dog part and people were immediately underwhelmed and one girl even said wait he proposed to you on a Tuesday? And then there was my friend’s reaction.
While I don’t wish I had a different proposal, I was annoyed at how underwhelmed or even kind of rude people were. I told my FI that if we ever got to that point I would want it to be something romantic and I would want him to do the on one knee thing, so I was happy. 🙂 To me it was so cute and special. It brightens up my day to walk past that book case in the apartment and think right here is where he got down on one knee and presented me with a beautiful ring and it was actually a surprise!!
And he called my parents and told them he had fixed the ring and if it would be okay to ask me also super sweet and romantic.
Sorry for the super long post but did this happen to any of you? You told the super sweet proposal story and people were underwhelmed? Do you think they are just jealous or is this just like it wasn’t an over the top proposal so it’s not accepted?
My method of dealing with it is to just not tell the story unless asked and if I do to fully expect an underwhelming response at the end. I always smile though because it’s a great story to me.