people asking size/price of my ering

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have never had anybody ask. If they did, i would probably do the Dr. Evil thing with the pinky and say “1 million dollars!” and walk off.

Post # 4
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think it’s rude. 

My ring is a black diamond, and much lower in price point than a clear diamond…but it’s 2.75tw, so in size it’s respectable. A high school classmate I have not seen or talked to in easily 10 years saw it and messaged me on Facebook and said “your ring is huge! What does he do for a living?” Bleh. Definitely not something I’d ever dream of asking someone. 

Post # 5
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’ve never had anybody ask. I’m very open about dollar amounts on the Bee but in real life, there is no way I’d ever share.

Post # 8
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I totally don’t mind the size question (except, from like some random dude on the subway…), because the same size stone can look really different from person to person based on the setting and the finger it’s on.  I did ask that question of my close friends before ring shopping on my own.

We also bought less diamond than we could afford, so I’m not sensitive to people making money judgements about us based on the size of my ring because if they are they’re likely underestimating.  🙂

We’re really open about money overall though.  I can really understand when people who keep their finances more private are hesitant to share anything about their rings.  

Post # 9
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s really amazing what kinds of things people say! My ring is big for my area. I often get things like whoa what’s he do for a living? Is he a doctor? What size is that? etc. 

I think it’s all pretty rude honestly. I don’t think people mean it that way though, so I try not to let it bother me. I don’t mind too much if people ask how big my stone is. But if people ask what size is that you can always answer your ring size if you don’t want to answer!

Post # 10
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Who does this? Who?  I really don’t understand how some people don’t realize that this is inappropriate. Its like part of the population missed their 2nd grade lesson in manners.

No one has ever asked me my ring’s specs or cost though, not even close friends. I wouldn’t dream of asking someone that! If someone ever does ask me the cost of mine I will just say that I don’t know.

Post # 11
1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

argh, Is your stone on your ring extraordinarily large? do you think people are trying to ascertain if its real or if its only a simulant?  Eiither way whether its an actual genuine diamond or a sim, it is still quite rude and inappropriate but just trying to put forth possible reasons why someone would do that. People are strange. 

Post # 12
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Some people don’t realize it’s considered to be rude. My DH was one of them. When we were looking for an ering, and he saw one he liked on someone’s hand he would ask about specs even if he didn’t know the person. It just didn’t really dawn on him that he was indirectly asking about money (which a lot of people are uncomfortable talking about). If someone asks me about my rings, I don’t find it offensive at all. I mean a total stranger on a bus might be a little weird, but a person I work with wouldn’t bother me.

Post # 13
1170 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2002

I would not feel comfortable discussing specs or price IRL.  On here, it’s different because we all want to know that we got the best possible deal, but IRL, it’s just uncomfortable.  I’ve had people ask me about carat weight, but thankfully no one has come right out and asked the price. 

Post # 14
1134 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@carlypaige:  I’ve never had anyone ask me that, but I think it’s incredibly rude to ask the price of someone’s jewellery! It’s none of their business.

I don’t even know how much my own ring costs.

Post # 16
420 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It doesnt offend me, but its weird that people ask. I met this girl for the first time through my friend, and she asked me the size of my diamond. 

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