Post # 1
Just had a coworker ask me what my wedding budget is… and I kind of didn’t want to answer because it feels like they’re asking me a deeply personal question.
However; several girls in my office are engaged and it is just everyday, normal, water cooler talk…. do you ask or how do you answer when asked? Should I stop thinking this is an invasive question and get over it?
Post # 3
I get uncomfortable regardless of who it is, but I’ll tell depending on who it is.
Post # 4
Depends why they’re asking–some people want to know so they can accurately gauge what theirs should be!
Post # 5
@Mrs_Amanda: I wouldn’t want to answer either! I feel like it’s such a personal question.
Post # 6
I’m sorry, it’s an invasive question! I’m not even sure there’s a polite way to answer.
I used to say “we don’t have a budget. We’re just checking off the vendor checklist one by one.” or “it’s hard to budget. We just take the quotes our vendors give us”
Post # 6
Only my parents, my husband, my best friend and I knew what our wedding budget was.
Post # 7
this always makes me uncomfortable. especially when you give a non-comittal answer (i.e. “ugh! too much!”) and they ask again.
Post # 8
A friend of mine was showing me her venue pack and it had all the prices in it. When I stumbled across them I covered them with my hand and said to my friend “you’d better take these”. When she asked why I said because I didn’t think she’d want me to know what she was spending and because I would feel weird knowing. She sounded relieved but said that she’d given up trying to be discreet because everyone one was aksing. I just think it’s sooo rude!
Post # 8
People constantly asked me–especially the inlaws because they weren’t contributing financially. They chose not to help at all with the wedding, but it’s like they still had this crazy desire to know how much my parents were helping and how much we were paying out of our pocket.
I chose not to tell most people when they asked. Once the wedding was over and people saw our pics, people asked even more!
Post # 9
I found it weird. I didnt tell anyone my budget at all. Its not their business, and theres no reason why they need to know. When people asked me I told them we are still working on it.
Post # 10
i think asking how much the wedding budget correlates to your salary. IMO. the more u make the more likely your budget is going to be bigger. so when someone asks i answer thats between Fiance and i
Post # 11
That said: if it was a relative or someone involved I probably wouldn’t bee too fussed. But then, they’re unlikely to ask just for the sake of being nosey.
Post # 12
Weird because it is no one’s business what is being spent on anything.
Post # 13
It’s rude and no one’s business. Nonetheless, plenty of people askedm e this question, too, and I told everyone, since I didn’t have an alternative response ready. I should have just told everyone our budget was a billion dollars.
Post # 14
depends on the person… i have some friends who are “high maintanance” and are always bragging on what they will have at their wedding and how mom and dad will buy them whatever they want… and they only want to one up me when they ask… then i have others who are really curious and want to know how I am spending my budget and where I saved on stuff…
in all reality if someone is judging my wedding based on my budget I hope they dont come and could careless if they dont… its not about money its about celebrating a marriage