Post # 1
My wedding is not that far away now as of today I think we have 45days and I’m starting to mail out our wedding invites. (I mailed the first batch this afternoon WOOO!) Ok so from my excitement I post on Facebook saying how excited I was and how I mailed the first batch out and so on and so forth and then the comments began. I have had several people tell me they will be waiting on their invites in the mail and are excited and can’t wait but I didn’t account for these people and I don’t have any extra invitations since I only made 110. (We’re only inviting close family and friends) I guess it’s kinda my fault for posting it on facebook but I was just so excited that the mailing process has begun and I wanted to share. *sigh
I don’t know how to politely tell these people I don’t have an invitation for them and I hate that they just assume they are being invited. Any of you bees have any ideas on how I should go about this, or should I just send out invitations and not tell these people anything?
Post # 3
That main reason i did no posting on Facebook. From the moment i changed my status to engage, the request started coming in.
Those who text i just said it is a small gathering of immediate family,and i have to consider my Fiance said of the family too.
Post # 4
First, posting things like that on Facebook….bad idea! People will assume. I wouldnt say anything, and if they ask you again tell them its a small wedding family and close friends only. I think its VERY rude to assume your invited, and they will get the hint when no invite comes in the mail.
I’ve had several people do it to me too, and I never posted anything about my invites on fb! I just tell them we are keeping it small, so sorry!
Post # 5
Thanks ladies, I do feel bad and lesson learned not to post on facebook. I actually wouldn’t care if they decided to show up to our dance or the church but I wouldn’t have enough to feed them if they showed up to the meal.
Post # 6
Agreed. I can’t figure out for the life of me why people always assume they are invited. I remember when I changed my status to engaged, there were all sorts of people hinting at invites and some I couldn’t figure out if they were just kidding or not (e.g. one person was someone from high school that I haven’t spoken to in years except for “Happy birthday” on FB).
I would just send out the invitations and call it a day. If they ask, you can say something about it being a small, intimate wedding and how you wish you could have invited everyone, blah blah blah.
I haven’t posted anything else on FB about our engagement (except for engagement photos) and I don’t post anything about my wedding at all. I think most of our invited friends have taken that as a cue and they don’t mention anything about being invited/involved on FB.
Post # 7
@MrsDPal811: Don’t post on facebook! Lesson learned!
Granted, I still think it’s inappropriate and presumputous for people to expect an invite. If your FB friends ask about their invite and they aren’t invited, you need to address it tactfully. “I’m so sorry, we’re keep the guest list quite small. Still, after the wedding we should go out and celebrate.” Or something to that effect.
Post # 8
Write them on Facebook and explain you are having a small wedding. Congrats on mailing out the invites!