Post # 1
So I got engaged over the weekend and have been spreading the news to friends, etc. A few have commented that my retelling of the story is too reserved/I don’t have a big reaction. Am I weird? Am I supposed to cry every time I tell them how it happened? Or am I expected to be a bouncy and jittery mess every time I talk about it? Anyone else have people say their “reactions” aren’t up to par?
Post # 3
I think they’re just too steeped in shrieky TV culture where everything is blown up to larger-than-life proportions. There’s nothing wrong – and a lot right – with being quietly delighted about your engagement.
Post # 4
I was talking to one of our guy friends last night and he said I didnt sound too excited… What do people expect me to do?!
Post # 5
OMG OMG OMGOOOOOOOD!
yeah, everything is too hyped up on TV and media! It’s their expectations of what is “normal” that is messed up, I certaintly wouldn’t be all hyped either. Rather quiet like you!
Post # 6
People can be totally thrilled without being over the top, you know? Enjoy it and don’t listen to other people. 🙂
Post # 7
Lol thanks ladies! Makes me feel better that I’m not some crazy cold hearted person… I’m really excited to be engaged and to get married but I’d rather not give people headaches by yelling haha. I was beginning to wonder if there was something wrong with me!
Post # 8
You should not worry about your reaction at all! I’m the same way, I can feel a lot of excitement about things, but I don’t tend to feel very comfortable being outwardly emotional except to my Fiance and closest friends/family. I don’t think your outward reaction necessarily says anything about how you feel inside, honestly. Some people are just more reserved than other.
Post # 9
I feel the same as you (but it is now coming out with everything wedding related). When I got engaged I did cry and was excited but I didn’t get overly excited or want to go around being one of those girls. And it was the same with my dress. I didn’t get that excited “yes this is my dress!!!” feeling. It was quiet and exciting to me in my own way. I am glad that I am not the only one that is feeling “un-normal” for not being the freak out, overly excited bride! 🙂
Post # 10
Not everyone cries at everything! Just look at the Olympics, some of the athletes bawl, some smile, some sniffle, some grin, and some hoot and holler when they win. It all depends on the person.
Post # 11
@Pinknyy: Just let people know it was an open ended discussion that you and he were constantly having about your future together, and you knew he was your “one,” and vise versa, hence no surprise! It’s a given!
That should shut them up.
Post # 12
Eh, I’m a loud person generally, but when I got engaged I was quiet, and not bouncy. It was a different type of joy, not the OHMAGA, I GET TO BEA BRIIIIIIIIIIIDDDDDEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!! EVERYONE LOOK AT MEEEE!
It was a I am so very happy an content with the way my life is going and I am grateful I have this guy in my life. I dont need to make a scene to ahowy happiness, but if you really mist admire and complemnt my sparkile, please o right a head. Full disclosure, I bawled like a baby once I got in the car .
Post # 13
Congratulations! Be yourself.
Post # 14
Ugh. People can STFU. I have never had anyone say anything to me about my telling of the story, but I kind of hating telling people for this reason. I feel like I should be all ZOMGGGGGG but that isn’t really my personality. And I’ve told it like 10,000 times. I mean, it was wonderful. But you can only be so excited about something for so many times… lol