Post # 1
Frustated here, Im sure many of you young brides and older brides that look young have experienced this as well. People in the wedding industry do not take me seriously. I am 5’2 with fair hair and fair skin so I look very young. When I went to look at rings I had a hard time finding people to take me seriously. When I went to bridal fairs everyone thought my sister who is 17 was the bride! When I go to bakers to discuss cakes they blow me off! I am a pretty opinionated person so when they blow me off I DO NOT give these rude vendors my business. Have any of you had this happen? Are you as unforgiving as Iam?
Love and Luck
Post # 3
Lol im 5’1 with blonde hair and light skin as well, i could prob pass for 15. When my mom and I would go to bridal expos, vedors would look at her (thinking shes too old), then me (thinking im too young) and ask if someone was getting married lol.
Post # 4
I have the same problem! My mom and I went to the bridal fair a couple weekends ago and I coulnd’t even get the cake lady to say hi! Plus, FI and I just bought a house and were going to sod our lawn, so we went to a home and garden show to hire someone, and no one would give us the time of day! It drives me crazy, but their loss since they could have had your money and business!
Post # 5
Good, I’m glad you’re unforgiving, there’s no reason for people to be rude. The other reason people tend to blow off younger brides, especially if they’re not with a parent, is because they think they won’t be able to spend as much. So for both reasons I think it’s good that you return the cold shoulder to people who treat you poorly.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2011 - AnthonyÃ¢Â€Â™s Fine Dining
This is gonna sound crazy, but I wear my glasses. It TOTALLY works!
Post # 7
Holla, lol. I have the same problem. I went to COSTCO to get a membership the other day because I want to DIY my flowers, and the lady at the counter told me I look like I’m 15 (I’m almost 21). And jewelers don’t want a thing to do with me. I think they assume that since I’m young I have no money. The lady i dealt with was pretty surprised when I paid cash for a fairly pricey wedding band. I’m pretty opinionated like you, and a total A type, and this just drives me crazy. Sometimes (like with COSTCO) I have no choice by to stay with a business, but usually I go elsewhere when I get treated like this.
Post # 8
I’m 5’3″ and everybody tells me I look 16 LOL but I’ve never had this problem. It might be because I carry myself well, I’m very vocal about what I want and expect from people. I have an air of bitchiness if I feel like I’m being disrespected, although I’m not a full-on B to any vendors or retail people, but if you rock a bit of an attitude you’ll get taken more seriously than if you appear meek. That makes you seem even younger than you are.
Post # 9
sjones724: My mom also looks young even though she has dark hair and dark skin she looked older when she married my dad and she still looks young enough to be the bride! I look like an identical twin to my dads sister but she has wrinkes now and looks her age because of the sun. There is little to no hope for us petite fair colored ones : )
I have about three other friends who are getting married within a year of me one looks even younger than me. Non of us will give these rude vendors our busines.
Post # 10
I’m 5’2″, fair skin, fair hair, etc. and the one thing I’ve found that works is dressing up–not too much, because then it looks like I’m trying too hard (which I am…), but a little bit. Basically, if it looks like I have a real job and go to the office, they seem to take me more seriously. I don’t like dealing with rude vendors, and I will not buy from them/hire them if they’re blowing me off, but I also hate dealing with being blown off in the first place and I hate confrontation, so doing this has been a way around that for me.
Plus, I get to wear my fun shoes and office clothes more often–something I didn’t realize I’d miss when I quit working and went back to school 🙂
Post # 11
I’m 5′, baby faced, and pale skinned. People think I’m 12. It’s ridiculous. As a result, I’ve stopped being shy around vendors/new people. No amount of dressing up or carrying myself better makes a difference. The only thing that ever has is confidence and outspokenness. Even then, I still get comments about it. But I AM young – 20 – it just sucks being mistaken for a middle schooler or high school kid, especially because R and I live on our own, etc, and I haven’t lived with my parents in years!
Post # 12
I know exactly how you are feeling!! I get IDed just the buy lottery tickets!! I just take it as a compliment that I don’t look like a 23 year old hag. Hang in there girl…
Post # 13
I actually also posted a thread about this because I was having the same problem!
Here’s the thread with tips that other bees gave me:
Post # 14
I had to make like 3 visits to the florist for her to realize that I was serious, and she kept saying things like “well you could go with this, but it’s gonna cost you”, and I had to remind her that if I tell you this is what I want, I want you to do it, regardless of cost. I know what I want! lol… Plus my wedding is in a small town, so there’s only 2 florists so I didn’t have much choice to go elsewhere!
Post # 15
Not to be a downer but it doesn’t really get better. I’m in my late 20’s but blond and petite and jeesh, I have a good degree while my husband is still working on his, we’re in the same field but we’ve both noticed that people will address him and not me, and just assume I’m just the supportive girlfriend if we’re at conferences. Even when I talk with them, they will talk down to me until they realize that I’m actually the one who has the degree and then their tune changes and they’ll have a real conversation. Honestly, my problem has been with later middle aged men. I’ve gotten to the point where I do look old enough for women in my field to accept me and have real conversations without any point of having to ‘prove’ myself but men really take on a very pooh pooh attitude. Even dressing nicely but plainly doesn’t seem to work well, the nicer I put myself together then there’s just another sort of unwanted attention. Hate to say it but there’s still a lot of irritation to get over as a woman.
Post # 16
A short and young looking one myself, when I need to be taken seriously I wear a jacket, makeup, and heels. But generally I reserve that for professional matters. If a vendor doesn’t want to give me respect and attention because I look young, I don’t want to purchase a service from them.