Post # 1
I found out months after my wedding that the night of our rehearsal dinner was an all night drunken affair for many of our OOT guests, including most of our wedding party. Luckily I didn’t know about it on our wedding day because nothing terrible happened like a BM or GM not showing up or getting sick. But everyone under the age of 40 pretty much closed the hotel bar down and was hungover on our wedding day (THAT’s why my bridesmaids left for 3 hours after getting their hair done to get bacon egg and cheese sandwiches!!!)
At first it bothered me a little to hear about this.. but then I calmed down. I mean, yes, we hosted the RD but they are the ones who had to take off work that Friday, pay for the hotel an extra night and our ceremony wasn’t until 5pm the next day. They’re adults so if they want to be hungover for our wedding I guess that’s their choice.
I think I was just caught up with the perfect day syndrome..
What do you all think? Would this bother you?
Post # 3
If it was just guests that were hungover, then no. Seeing as how it was part of your bridal party, then yeah, I would be pissed. I understand they are taking time away from work and their own plans, and I GREATLY appreciate that but I also think getting wasted the night before is a bit disrespectful. It’s not the end of the world and I probably wouldn’t mention it to them (after the fact) but I would be upset.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t care unless someone throws up on me the next day or just doesn’t show up b/c of it. Other than that, people can do whatever they want. I can’t police them over a wedding, even if it’s mine.
Post # 5
Eh, I honestly wouldn’t care unless there were people puking AT my wedding or ON me. If people are a little hungover thats there choice.
Post # 6
I think I’d probably be a little disappointed, especially if it was the wedding party, but it wouldn’t ruin my day unless someone missed the wedding, got sick during the ceremony/reception, or couldn’t participate in the getting ready part of the morning.
I figure the guys will drink the night before the wedding, I just don’t want them to be standing up there next to my FI and hurting.
Post # 7
As long as they were able to keep it together the next day, I wouldn’t care. We were just at a friend’s wedding where almost the entire bridal party got pretty drunk the night of the rehearsal dinner. We were all fine for the wedding, but we don’t see each other all that often. So we just partied a lot over 2 days!
Post # 8
we all pretty much got smashed AFTER my FSIL’s rehearsal dinner….including her and the groom – we went to a local jazz club after the actual rehearsal dinner. Luckily it was on a Thursday so we had friday to recover, kind of. we were still running around doing wedding stuff.
People are there to enjoy the festivities, as long as they can function like normal people the next day (more so the bridal party than anyone else) i dont see a problem with it.
Post # 9
As long as it didn’t affect me or the roles they were supposed to perform, I don’t care. I want them to have a good time. I want them to remember that they enjoyed the weekend and not that I had some strict standards for them just because “Its my day”
Post # 10
One of our groomsman was trashed all night (in my presence). We wanted to hang out at the bar after dinner, but he wouldn’t go back to his room, so we all had to turn in early. I was super annoyed. But in general I don’t care as long as it doesn’t affect me.
Post # 11
I’d be annoyed if it was a member of the wedding party, immediate family or someone actively involved in the wedding day because it would most likely affect their participation and behavior on the wedding day.
Post # 12
@2PeasinaPod: I agree with you. If it had no impact on the wedding day then I wouldn’t care.
Post # 13
If they couldn’t or didn’t want to party with me at the wedding b/c they were drunk the night before I would be upset. I’d be really mad if they didn’t show up or were late b/c they were hungover.
Post # 14
As long as everyone shows up and fulfills their wedding party responsibilitities, I would have no problem with it. They are adults, so choosing how much to drink is their own business.
Post # 15
I think that it shows an absence of class to get totally and completely smashed (plus I would expect the wedding party to understand how much alcohol costs, and that it’s totally inappropriate to be cleaning out the pockets of whoever is paying for the booze, unless it was a cash bar). I mean, whatever, it’s their choice, but it would definitely bug me. This is a big reason why we’re not having an open bar — there are people on both sides of our family who would use it as an excuse to get stupid drunk, and I am not okay with paying for that.
Post # 16
I wasn’t going to comment on this, since it is currently a really sore subject for me. Our wedding was last week, and at/after our rehearsal dinner, several members of our party went out and got drunk.
One of our ushers got ARRESTED and spent the night in jail after a DWI, and another groomsmen continued to drink the following day, and was an utter humiliation to everyone, insulting our officiant, grandfather, and almost getting into a fistfight at the reception.