Post # 1
So a bit of background – we’re getting married in Glasgow, Scotland next summer (fiance’s family is there). Since it’s destination wedding for most of our friends, we’re keeping it small – family we like and the friends we consider family. I’ve made one comment on Facebook (and yes I learned my lesson to keep things quiet on FB) and general comments at work, and various people have said things like “I’ll start saving”. Some of these are coworkers I like but never see outside of work, others are friends from high school who I only see at reunions (we just had our 20th so it’s been a LONG time since we hung out regularly). Do I say anything to them? Do I smile and let them figure it out when they don’t get an invitation?
Post # 3
I really doubt that people whom you have no contact with much will save thousands of dollars to be able to come to your wedding. Me personally, I have better things to spend thousands on if you aren’t family or a close friend. Don’t say anything…. they will figure it out when they don’t get an invitation…. if they were even serious about it in the first place.
Post # 4
I sincerely doubt there’s any intention behind those remarks…it’s fine
Post # 5
People say a lot of things in light conversation, I wouldn’t take it seriously. Don’t say anything and if anyone asks about invites, just say that it’s just for close family.
In other news…Congratulations on your awesome destination wedding locale! Wow, you are a lucky duck! We are going to Ireland and maybe Scotland for our Honeymoon and I cannot wait, I’ve been dying to go there.
Post # 6
@sugarpug2012 – yeah, I got really lucky. Fiance grew up in Scotland and Wales and went to university in London. He’s been here since 1999 but his parents still live in Scotland. They can’t really travel here, so we just “had” to have hte wedding there 🙂 Most of the guests are THRILLED to go over and are using it as an excuse ofr a vacation. We decided not to get married in a castle, but I can live with that
Post # 7
I think it’s just one of those off comments that people make, to lighten the situation. To express envy. I’ve done it before when people talk about AMAZING vacations! There’s never an ounce of seriousness or intent behind my joke. I wouldn’t worry about it/say anything to these people.