Post # 1
Many of you ladies who are pregnant, were TTC and your friends and family knew it.
This makes the “waiting to tell” a bit more complicated.
People asking how it’s going or how your “baby fever” is. My cousin and his wife are coming over tonight and he joked “you and my wife can talk about your baby fever” (Uh oh! haha!)
I don’t like lying…but I also don’t know about telling people when I just found out DAYS ago.
For those of you who are or were pregnant….after “publicly” TTC…how did you handle telling? How long did you wait?
Also….dont’ you tell people in stages? Like maybe your best friend and parents first…and then others….and then even later,EVERYONE?
How long did you wait to tell these people?
I would LOVE some advice and input regarding how others handle this.
Post # 3
I have no advice for this – but just wanted to say congrats again! I was so excited to get up on Saturday and see that you had tested positive again! You had us waiting all night!
Post # 4
I’m not pregnant yet…obviously! But I would tell your family all at once when you do decide to share the news. It will spread like wild fire and some people might get offended if they don’t hear it from you personally.
Post # 5
you are a local girl! Do you have a blog? If so…email it to me 🙂
@JewishBride: Yeah..I’m torn. We almost told my inlaws already because I kind of wanted some support and I am on the outs right now with both of my parents. But I know what you mean about people being offended. Maybe I will wait until my 8 week appointment and then just tell the In-Laws and the SIL all at once 🙂
Post # 6
I’m not pregnant but I can tell you what I plan on doing because DH and I have already talked about it. I will tell my mom/dad and sister right away. I will want to tell my closest cousins and aunts right away but I will wait until that 11 or 12 week waiting period is over (the one where you likely won’t lose it after that). Because there are too many of them to have to explain later if I lose it. My husband will wait for us to tell his family until the waiting period is over. I don’t mind having to tell my immediate family I lost it but he doesn’t want to.
Post # 7
So you will tell your parents right away? (not waiting 11-12 weeks) I feel like if I was talking to my mom, I would have called her that day. We are close to my husband’s parents…so I am debating if I should tell them, like I would my own mother
Post # 8
We told our immediate families right away (I am about 6 weeks). And my best friend because she is family anyway. Basically we told those that we would tell if (god forbid) anything sad happened. We’re waiting to tell grandparents, extended family and the rest of our friends until the 12 week mark.
Post # 9
I didn’t lie to anyone, but didn’t tell them either. Two of my friends who are getting married this year both guessed when I was on the phone and I confirmed. I think when you talk about it a lot and then suddenly stop, it raises eyebrows…..
I told my sister the day I found out but didn’t tell my parents until this past weekend when I started spotting and was freaking out. They then told my brother and SIL. I’m torn kinda – if , god forbid, something does happen, then I’d want support, which will be easier if people know. But on the other hand, I’m not ready to just tell everyone yet either….
Post # 10
We did a staggered telling approach.
We told my parents and two siblings at 7 weeks when we saw them in person around the holidays.
Then we had another appointment and saw the heartbeat and told my MIL, FIL, and two SILs.
After that we waiting a bit and recently just told a few close friends around 11 weeks.
I think we are waiting for our next appointment around 13-14 weeks to announce to extended family and other friends. We will hopefully wait even a few more weeks to tell work and post on Facebook.
Honestly, once we told a few people that I could talk to, it hasn’t been that hard. Pretty much all the people we see on a daily basis know.
If they know you are TTC, that gives you lots of fun ways to announce the BFP. We were talking to my SIL/BIL about baby stuff, and they said, well you guys should go home so you can conceive tonight. We just responded with “Too Late”. At first they didn’t catch on and were like, why its only 9 pm. We had to clarify that we couldn’t conceive that night because conception happened about 2 months ago!
Post # 11
I would tell everyone in a mass text message or on facebook! juuuuuust kidding! I did have a very good friend do that though and I was ticked! my FSIL told me first (we’re BFFs and I hounded her every day after she announced she was TTC) then immediate family (moms, dads, etc.) then she also called other family members and friends so they didn’t hear about it randomly from someone else or learn about it through technological means. this all happened in the same day. I think FSIL and hubby kept it to themselves for a while during the critical period. whatever you do, I’m sure everyone will be happy for you and it is YOUR baby so YOU can decide what’s best 🙂 I don’t think there is any rule you can follow in this situation!
Post # 12
I’m about 6 weeks and so far I have told my mom and my best friend. I am really trying to wait until our 8 week appointment to tell my brother and his wife but I’m pretty sure I’ll cave before then. I am having “drinks” with two really close friends tonight and while I won’t offer the information, I’m sure they’ll figure it out when I don’t order wine. My husband wants to wait to tell his parents until we are out of the first trimester and I’m fine with that (can we wait until I deliver, his mom is, um, ALOT)
I was pregnant and miscarried last August and I had told my mom, 2 friends and my brother. When I miscarried I was happy they already knew and were able to support me, so I guess that would be my advice: tell those who you would want and trust to be there for you in your happiest and saddest days. Making the calls after the doctor sucked, but they were so wonderful and it helped to talk about it.
Post # 13
Hi! Congrats 🙂 I’m at the 9 week mark tomorrow. We waited until this past weekend to tell our parents and siblings, and will most likely wait until after our 2nd ultrasound (scheduled for the end of the month) to tell our friends. Part of me wants to shout it from the roof because we are SUPER excited, but if something should happen to go wrong, the fewer people we have to relive the scenario with, the better. However, I know that if something were to happen I would end up leaning on many of those friends for support after the fact. It’s really a personal decision. Whenever YOU feel comfortable is the right time! All the best 🙂
Post # 14
@spraguebride:Yep, telling my parents right away. I have no problem telling his parents right away but he doesn’t want to tell them until 12 weeks in case I miscarry. Especially since it’s so likely with the 1st one. But he works in Ultrasound so he sees it alot. I on the otherhand figure it won’t happen to me. 🙂 But either way don’t mind telling my mom/dad/sister if I do miscarry.
I know a girl who got pregnant and her mom told her not to tell anyone until she was 12 weeks. Well her and her husband starting telling everyone (waaaay sooner than 12 weeks) and then posting things on FB like “just singing to the baby”, etc… and then she lost it.
Post # 15
I did something stupid and told everyone I was joining weight watchers before I got pregnant, and people knew I was TTC. I got pregnant a month after joining, and had to quit. People always asked me how the diet was going, and I just came up with stupid lies to why I was doing bad. Luckily it was around the holidays.
I actually have a friend who would always ask me about babies. Random questions. He asked if I thought my migraines would get better when I got pregnant (NO!), what we’re going to name our child, etc. Again, I just lied. Not their business, they don’t need to know.
I think it’s a personal decision for when you tell everybody. I miscarried during my last pregnancy, so I was very happy with my decision to only tell family and wait for everyone else. I felt like I had the support I needed, but I didn’t have to deal with hearing about it all the time and people asking how I was, when I just wanted to be left alone. So I did the same thing this time, we told our families right away and waiting until the 12 week ultrasound before anybody else got to know, no matter how good of friends we are.
Post # 16
Not pregant yet but we plan to tell both sets of parents right away, i wouldnt be able to hold it in from them! My hubby jokes taht he better find out before my mom…. yup after me adn the hubs know, next up will be my mom! then probably wait with friends/extended family until we get out of the first trimester.