(Closed) People leaving RSVP's blank/filling out wrong!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve learned people don’t read… and they don’t think. I’ve had RSVPs written with just one name and a checkmark (we don’t have entree choices) for attending and then was verbally told, “Oh, my wife is coming too.” (Which is fine as we expected both of them, but again, can you PLEASE put both names down?)

Hopefully, you didn’t get any extra guests?

I think you definitely will have to call them. Otherwise, if it is a Mr. and a Mrs., then you could just mark one with one entree and the person with the other entree. When they get there and it is wrong, they can just swap at the table with each other. Not a huge deal IMO. Most of the weddings I’ve been to with choices, the server usually confirms with the guest at the table anyway.

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t get people. It seems so simple.

If you’ve gotten the right number of cards back and you don’t know which blank ones belong to whom, then just call the people that you don’t have squared away and say, “I (or the postal service) seem to have misplaced your response card, are you planning to attend yadda, yadda, yadda” or you could just say “I invited a bunch of [email protected]$$es to my wedding and I think you’re one of them…”

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Zusie:  I like your second suggestion. For real, it’s not that hard to write your damn name, a number, and pick an entree. Geeze, I figured out the RSVP card for the very first wedding that I was invited to as an adult just fine. 

Post # 6
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3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve been getting a lot back like that too. I specifically said to INITIAL each meal choice, and we still get some marked 1 chicken, 2 steak.

I’ve just been messaging/texting those people as their RSVPs come in and writing down who wants what meal so I don’t have to do them all at the end.

 

People are dumb!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I got back one that says they will not be attending.. but didn’t put their name on the name line.. uhhh.. oookkk.. I wish I would have thought of putting numbers on all of the rsvps, BEFORE I sent them out..

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

As long as you know who sent the reply and how many guests are coming, if you do escort envelopes, you should be fine.  For example, you can put one “filet mignon” card and one “sea bass” card in the envelope that is addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Doe. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

So we did the whole invisible ink thing, laughing at what a waste of time it was while doing it…because it CLEARLY states “Names:” with a very long blank line following. And thank goodness we did the invisible ink because somehow people still just didn’t put their names down. Like more than a few people so far. How HARD is it?!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@kate02121:  “the invisible ink thing”

Ok tell me… TRUE or FALSE (as in is this factual… or JK and pulling my leg)

Do like the idea that someone else mentioned tho about numbering the RSVPs… then at least you can match up # 87 with whomever it was sent to.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@This Time Round:  I did the number thing and it’s been a lifesaver so far.

 I got one back today that just says “Dan” on the name line…nothing else checked.

Post # 12
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368 posts
Helper bee

As a teacher, I have quickly learned that 95% of people do not read written instructions – they jump in, do what they think they’re supposed to do, then get confused when it doesn’t work. Seriously, they don’t even look at the instructions – their eyes jump to the first blank/question, and they wing it.  I literally read my instructions aloud verbatim to my students before releasing them to get something done, just to avoid stuff like this. 

I would just seat them next to each other and make your best guess as to which wanted which. If you get their selection wrong, they can easily swap plates with the nearby family member who got “their” meal.

Post # 13
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I numbered mine in the corner so if a blank one comes back I know who it came from.  That being said a male teacher friend of mine asked me the other day why he was number 78 and I told him the reason.  He thought the whole idea was completely brilliant. Just thought it was funny that a guy would pick up on that.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve only had about half my cards filled out correctly….your  not alone. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yea it’s amazing how difficult rsvp cards seem to be for people…like, come on. lol

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