Post # 1
This has always bothered me.. whether it be engagements or babies or other big news.
I think it’s rude when other people take the liberty to announce a new baby before the new parents get a chance to… specifically I’m speaking of facebook.
Everyone is so excited and anxious they want to post congratulatory messages all over the new parents wall, which I understand. But I find it “stealing the new parents thunder” so to speak.
I haven’t decided how I want to handle this yet, anyone have any input? I was considering disabling my wall entirely, but I do like getting the congratulatory messages (AFTER I’ve posted an announcement), or else people just post under statuses instead.
Post # 3
I think that it is rude. I almost accidentally called someone out on being pregnant on FB, I didn’t know her family didn’t know (she lives in another country). Luckily she saw it right away and deleted it. I just feel aweful about it. We have another friend in another country that she just emailed us and told us she is pregnant with their second but they are only telling close family and a very few super close friends. I would never say anything about it on FB, that would be cold and rude, IMO.
I do have one friend that was on FB through her whole delivery, all but the five minutes she was pushing. So everyone knew the second she was born. I did find that much information running around to be a bit much, but it is their information to share I guess.
Post # 4
@tksjewelry: I actually disabled my FB wall when I found out I was pregnant for that very reason. Until I made it public, no one could write on my wall and I made it very clear to everyone who knew to keep it off FB. Yeahhh… I so wouldn’t be facebooking while in labor. but to each their own. People can wait a day to find out about the baby.
Post # 5
I’m assuming the only ones that will be there the day of your labor would be those very close to you. So I would just tell them to keep it off of FB until you do?
Post # 6
I just wastched DH’s sister yesterday post about their cousin starting labor, and then posted stats about the baby. They aren’t close at all. I have fear that they will do the same thing to us. We have debated not telling anyone that we’re even at the hospital and just letting them know when the baby gets here, so that would prevent a lot of that.
Post # 7
I voted other.
When I had my baby my mom and immediate family put it on facebook after everyone who was important was called and what not. Announcing it on facebook after having my daughter was the last thing on my mind, so I was happy they did it. 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t care if it’s a grandparent or someone, but other than that I’d like to be the first to announce a new arrival!
Remember when Bethenny Frankel gave birth and her gossip ex friend Jill Zarin made the first announcement congratulating them on their “son” and then a few hours later the family was like “Actually it’s a girl, but thanks for telling everyone…”
Post # 9
With both my pregnancy and my engagement I specifically told our family and close friends to not post anything on facebook or twitter until they see something posted by us. Fortunately, everyone understood and respected our requests.
I think that a lot people mean well but it still sucks for the couple!
Post # 10
I think it’s totally rude, unless that specific person has been instructed to announce the birth on behalf of the parents! And I can understand your worries! My family is really far away (4 hours time difference as well), and I am terrified that someone will put something on facebook, or them finding out from someone else.
I have thought it might be a good idea to disable my facebook wall, but I would need to do it a week or two in advance of my due date. I think people will get super suspicious if all of a sudden my facebook wall is gone…. which will probably lead to non-stop phone calls, people posting on their own wall… hmmm, I wish I could turn off other people’s walls!
Post # 11
Darling Husband & I had family members post on Facebook within a couple hours of them finding out we were pregnant. It annoyed me. I wasn’t ready to tell my workplace yet, but I have a several coworkers as Facebook friends, so I felt forced to make my annoucement early (11 weeks instead of 13 weeks like I planned).
I also was a bit disappointed that Darling Husband & I didn’t get to make the “big announcement” of our pregnancy. I would be significantly more disappointed if it was baby’s ARRIVAL that we didn’t get to announce.
Post # 12
@regberadaisy: You would think so, but somehow these things always have a way of sneaking out. When my sister had her baby, it was her husband, my mom and me at the birth, but somehow people found out and before they could post their announcement, they had fifty congratulations posts on their wall!
@mwitter80: I definitely plan to do that, and tell my little brothers/other family that will be notified when I’m in labor, not to post anything on FB.
@fineapplewine: Yes, I do agree with that and understand that for sure!
@Dandelion D: Oh of course they do. I know of no one who would post a congrats post maliciously, lol! It still has always irked me though.
@Miss Smurf: Yeah, same here. DH’s family is across the country. I’m sure he will call them while I’m in labor, but there is definitely a list of people who need to know before FB does! I am finding that babies are a lot harder to “hide” than engagements lol!! I was able to keep my engagement off FB for three weeks.
Post # 13
So rude! But I imagine I’d not be on facebook right after giving birth.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I think it’s pretty rude. I never thought I’d have to worry about this kind of thing, but as soon as we got engaged my best friend posted it on Facebook before we had even told my FI’s family 🙁 It made me so upset and frustrated. Luckily no one really noticed it so people were still surprised when we announced it.
Ugh if she did that for our engagement I can only imagine what she’ll when I’m in labour. So rude.
ETA: My friend posted it as a status, not on my wall, and we have almost all the same people on FB.
Post # 15
Definately would disable wall posts until after delivery. And then announce and change it back so people can post. If it is important to you then I would take meassures to make sure no one else can post first because more then likely someone will.
Post # 16
This is one of my fears! With my DH’s brother and sister in law they had to specifically tell everyone not to post anything until they had a chance to. The reason being, with their first child people were announcing his death on facebook (he was born at 23 weeks). Unfortunately, this is how *I* found out. It really pissed me off because facebook is NOT the place to announce a death like that, within minutes of it happening, don’t you have anything better to do?! So needless to say, when we have our LO at the end of the summer we are going to do all we can to make sure people know to wait until we have a chance to announce it, before they do!