- 3 years ago
As it gets closer to my wedding the hardest part for me has been not being able to make everyone happy.
FSIL doesn’t like the date (she doesn’t like that we’re getting married at all..), FFIL doesn’t like fondant on the cake, doesn’t like all the work (he doesn’t help with) for the DIY decorations, a lot has come from his grandma too.
Today his grandma asked why we sent our invites out so early. We sent them at 11 weeks and our wedding is a few days before christmas… she complained that we spent HER money on STD’s which I spent 17 dollars on with the groupon for vistaprint. She pays him to cut grass even though he turns down money every time and we both have full time jobs but our money is HER money? She was shocked that the bridesmaids are wearing strapless dresses (like spaghetti straps would keep you warm) and she keeps asking why we didn’t go with velvet dresses. Yes… velvet. She said she’s “supposed” to get a shower invite before the wedding invite. WTF?!?! I have no say over my showers or when they send the invitations why the eff does it matter?!
That was just the tip of the ice berg, I’ve been planning my wedding for over a year now… that’s a different story, I’m so over it!
If it was my own family I think it would be easier to let it go but I want to impress his family and I want them to like me, not that they don’t, I just don’t want them to have a reason to talk bad or get mad about these things.
How do I let go of so much negativity so I don’t get stressed over my wedding? Anyone have anything similar?