(Closed) People reacting to engagement rings

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@FutureMrs86: Well, you probably just described me and my hubby to a tee.

Many women have these feelings so I will tell you what I try to remember and I what I’ve told others: Love does not reside in expensive jewelry. Your friends need to grow up a little. Look at it as their problem, not yours. Welcome to the BEE!

Post # 4
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1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ha ha, this sounds a little like me. Our issue wasn’t money, I just didn’t want anything huge because I’m more of a less-is-more kind of girl and as I travel a lot, I feel like I can’t always wear something that looks like a finger grapefruit. Mine is a 1/2 carat round brilliant solitaire in a plain white gold band, tiffany setting, and I think it is PERFECT. He paid quite a bit more to get a really, really good quality stone from a conflict-free zone, so although my ring looks small, it actually cost the same as some girls’ 1-carat rings from mall jewelry stores. Quality over quantity, I always say. People who know jewelry see that it’s a very high quality stone, which brings me some satisfaction, but it does bug me when others try to gauge how to react by dubiously asking me, “Oh… did you pick it out yourself?” I tell them, “Nope, he got it all on his own, but he got me exactly what I was hoping to get!!” True story. 

 

Post # 6
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1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

haha people ask to see my ring and then just go quiet cuz it’s not a diamond, I brush it right off my shoulders. It’s what I wanted and it’s what’s important to ME.  They can suck it for all I care- I love my ring and FI =)

Post # 7
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2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well on a good year my fiance can make over $100 000 and I wear a ring under .5 carats, and I love it, in fact even thats too big for me. I don’t get the whole carat thing to be honest, I never understood the hype. There was a time when I did worry about it while ring shopping, thinking .5 was too small , but I quickly gave my head shake. I fell into society’s mindless trap of putting importance on such trivial possesions. What other people think, does not matter, and whats actually important, in life, is not money, but happiness and our capacity to love.

There are so many other things to worry about in life, and so many people have it worse, like ummm basic survival, and starving to death, and people in our society worry about a rock that costs thousands of dollars, and wanting even bigger. Such a shame to what our society has become.

 

Post # 10
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1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@FutureMrs86: precisely, people are going to judge you EITHER way. They are either going to be super jelly that you have a GIANT ROCK on your finger and say ‘omg she’s a spoiled brat blablabla she’s marrying him for money’ or they’re going to say ‘wow I totally wouldn’t settle for a ring that small that poor girl.’ They just have to react in a way that makes THEM feel better. People who insist on doing that really don’t matter at all =)

Post # 11
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2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@FutureMrs86:No one EVER mentions my ring, but I LOVE it. Eh, don’t worry about it. It bugged me for a while, but hey, ask a lady who has been married for 20 years if anyone ever asks about her ring. Probably not anymore. Sometimes people just don’t notice. And others who know you’re newly engaged don’t want to pry.

 

If you want comments, sometimes you have to be more proactive (what do you think of my ring?)

Post # 13
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@FutureMrs86: Same here! Well, my best friend from high school, said nothing?

But later she did. And I realized that she said nothing because she put more meaning in the relationship,not the ring. Later, however, she complimented it. But not before complimenting my husband’s character. Priorities! Maybe your friend feels the same way? Or she’s just jealous 😉

Post # 14
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207 posts
Helper bee

Some one could have a HUGE ring from Kays whose diamond quality and clearness has no comparison to a smaller one that may have come from an actual jeweler.

With that being said…size doesnt always matter and peoples thoughts should never matter.

You loving it is all that matters 🙂

Post # 16
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@FutureMrs86: All right, well that’s just super awesome! I love that! The sentimentality behind that trumps your friends and their pettiness!

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