…people, really?

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
44 posts

I’m sorry you have to deal with this. They should have told you sooo much sooner that 2 weeks before the wedding! Good thing you have plan b & c! I hope the rest of the planning and the day of goes perfectly!

Vent here all you need to girl! 

Post # 4
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this so close to your wedding. Luckily you have already made contingency plans.

The bigger problem is FSIL and what she said. Has your FI talked to her? Does she normally behave like this?

Post # 6
3165 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Im sorry you are dealing with this:( If people dont want to step & be there for you on your big day, FUCK EM! Vent all you need to though! Thats what the Bee is for!

Post # 7
7273 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Future.McGuffee:  While I agree the timing is late, as a parent I have some sympathy with your SIL. Kids grow up and change quickly. Last year they probably didn’t think it would be a problem. Now he’s an active 3 year old they’re realising how hard it will be. I do agree they would have known a couple of months ago though.

That said: from here, you can’t force them. It’s annoying but in the big scheme of things it’s pretty minor.

Post # 8
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I would talk to his sister and find out whats up.  Maybe you can fix whatever is wrong between you two.  Sure it’s possible she’s just been hidding her feelings but still it’s best to find out now.  Hopefully it’s just some misunderstanding.  If the results are negative than you should have an honest talk with your husband so you know where you both stand.

Now when it comes to your sister-in-law I would tell her your disappointed and upset that she is just now deciding this but of course you still want her there.  I don’t see this as something worth truly fighting about and ending your relationship with her.


Post # 10
7273 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Future.McGuffee:  Yes, I totally agree that they should have told you a couple of months ago. I’m glad you’re handling it well.

Post # 11
7518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Future.McGuffee:  Of course it would have been nice if they told you earlier but maybe the child has just entered a stage where he is being grumpy/insolent. She is probably doing this as a favour to you so that you don’t have cause to complain about how awful your ringbearer was, throwing a tantrum ruining your wedding etc etc.


Post # 12
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Future.McGuffee:  I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through that :(. It’s such an unnecessary stress because SHE ALREADY AGREED OVER A YEAR AGO. People are ridiculous.

Post # 14
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

God, I LOOOOOOOOOOVE it when people want to punch you in the face with last minute shit. “Oh, can we invite so and so to your wedding next month?” NO NO NO NO NO. “Oh, your wedding is next month and we’re still not sure if we can make it” (this, from FI’s BROTHER, who was supposed to be his best man). GREAT. Let us know for sure before we waste any money on you.

Post # 15
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Future.McGuffee:  Hagen Dasz ice cream bar. Eat one.  You’ll still be mad,but you’ll have had Hagen Dasz 

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