Post # 1
Here is my dilema. I only gave plus ones to people in serious relationships, or don’t know anyone else at the wedding.
I have received RSVP’s with “& guest” written with their name.. that THEY added.
What is the proper etiquete in this? I’m limited to 200 people. I did over invite, acounting for out of towners not coming, more of a curtosy invite.
I’m stressed, and not sure if I should wait untill I get more RSVPs back and then if it becomes an issue about numbers, then contact them.
In my heart, I want to call the person and say I’m sorry, but you can’t bring a guest because I cannot fit them in the hall. I am more upset that people I would have liked to invite after I starting finding out who was coming or not, wont be able to come because someone decided to bring some random person to my wedding.
Post # 3
Call and be kind:
“Hi, I’m so sorry but we’re limited in the amount of people we can invite due to capcity- I wish we can accomdate but at this time it’s just not possible”
if you WANT to add this (I did):
“although we’d love to allow your guest to come if there is room unfortunately I will not know until a little later when we get all the RSVP’s in”
Post # 4
RSVPing with a guest when you weren’t invited with one is without a doubt manner-less. I happen to feel that you have every right to call those guests and tell them that you’re sorry for any confusion, but they were not invited with a plus one. Hopefully they understand, but if you get some push back, stand your ground and tell them there are no exceptions.
Like the PP above said, if you end up with some extra seats at the end, you can call that guest back and say that they can bring their date…but make no promises!
Post # 5
My mom’s friend added her two kids to her RSVP – then emailed me a week later and told me she was sorry but couldn’t attend anymore. ugh ugh ugh. Solved that problem.
I personally don’t like to confront people about this. Do you have any “no” responses yet? Perhaps you can let this one slide if you have gotten some nos.
If it does come down to you getting a lot of “yesses” then you will have to take action. It’s up to you whether you think you should nip this in the bud and call them now, or wait til later.
Post # 6
Call them and say, nicely, you can’t accommodate their guest.
Post # 7
I think you need to call ASAP and not wait. You made a rule and you need to stick with it! If you allow these rude folks to bring their guests and the nice folks who obliged by the rules not to, it can get messy.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
“We’re so sorry-we have space and budget limitations and can’t accommodate guests’ dates. We look forward to seeing you at the wedding!”