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I have noticed many a thread on this board relating to the problem of wedding/age naysayers. People say you're are too young, you've got so much to offer, you should be doing xyz before you "tie yourself down". For a lot of new bees this can be very hurtful, demeaning, and often make you feel like people don't trust your judgment. "But age is just a number" you say, and as in life many people will agree or disagree with you.
I've created this thread in the hopes that rather than posting a million threads saying the same thing on our 20-something board, new bees will journey here first, hear some (hopefully nice) words of wisdom and learn to let it go. We all deserve love and happiness, and we are all here for the same reason. So vent here, post your stories, commiserate with your fellow bees. We don't have to let our age define us.
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To the bees giving their well-meaning advice. Please try to keep it nice and friendly. I know we all have our differing opinions, but if this is the one place we have to talk about these problems it should be a safe, judgment free space.
Peace and Love,Ms. Polar Bear
As the creator of the thread, here is my advice. My rule (and coincidentally my parents rule) of thumb on "too young or not too young" is this: Get a degree first.
I don't take it upon myself to say whether you are too young or not, but getting a degree first is such a great rule of thumb for many reasons.
So, get a degree first. If you love each other there should be no reason you can't go to school for four years in the same place and then get married.
@Ms. Polar Bear: While this is the EXACT advice I am following for myself, I'd probably expand that to say "be financially stable" rather than simply getting a degree. I know a lot of people who just aren't cut out for a four-year degree. Just because someone does not have a college diploma does not mean they aren't financially prepared to be married. I have a friend who is 19 and a GENIUS, and she graduated from trade school in graphic design. She was immediately hired at two prestigious jobs, and ended up dropping out of college after her first semester. The fact is, she already HAD two jobs that college grads would be looking for, so there was no point in wasting money to earn a degree to get a job that she already had. And she's making as much money as my parents.
So, I'd say that with or without a degree, the important thing is to be financially secure. Don't feel bad if life has taken you down a path that doesn't involve college- you can still be happy!
While I agree with you that it is a really good idea to get a degree before you get married, I don't think it's as important as you are implying. Here's why:
Being "ready" is not something that can be clearly defined for any person, regardless of age, gender, education, or anything else. When you are ready, you will know, and if you happen to be "too young" in someone else's opinion, then it really isn't your problem. And if you find out to your cost that you really weren't ready, well, life is full of mistakes and unexpected twists and turns. The only thing you can do is to accept them, learn from them, and move on. Nobody is perfect, and we have to do what we think is right based off the information and emotions we have at the present time.
@Ms. Polar Bear: I agree. FI and I have been together for 5 years (since we were 16/17). We both went to college to be elementary school teachers. I graduated a year early (2010) and have been working full-time as a preschool teacher since last May. He is graduating in a few weeks. Its also important to think about the emotional/maturity level of both people. I KNEW I wanted to wait to get married until we were done with school. We have never lived together because I wanted him to get the "college-boy-who-stays-up-all-night-playing-video-games-and-lives-in-a-gross-apartment" stage over with! He's done A LOT of growing up in the past year that we've been engaged and to me, he's a MAN now, not just a college BOY.
We both are ready to take this next step together. Oddly enough, we don't get comments about being too young. I don't really know why-- perhaps because we live in the south and people tend to get married young more often here, or maybe because we seem "mature" enough to handle the responsibilities of marriage.
However, every situation is different, and I don't think there's really an age-limit or number of "life experiences" that you can apply to everyone.
I don't think it's necessary for couples to have a degree in order to have a happy marriage at all. My FI doesn't have a degree, he has some college though and a lot of work experience. Plus, he has a good paying job right now. we aren't happy with it though because he works the graveyard shift which is really rough on us so he's in the process of looking for another job. My FI's previous work experience has demonstrated that he is very committed to his work and making as much money as possible.
I only have an associate's degree myself, but I have an okay paying job that I really like.
To me, a lot of money doesn't always equal happiness. I think it really helps that we communicate about proper ways to spend our money and if we need to save for something then we both put some aside which helps us get it quicker.
The bottom line is most of our debt came from going to college which we will be paying for awhile and we basically didn't get much back for going to college. I really don't think college is necessary to have a decent paying job. I think valuable work experience should count for something. We certainly are not rich, but we're doing alright financially together.
Hi everyone,
Commenting on my comment isn't really the point of the thread. The point is to give your own advice and for girls to use this singular thread to talk about their ageism issues. I didn't create this thread for it to become a debate as to whether or not people need a degree, that was just my personal opinion.
Let's stick to the point of the thread so that it remains helpful. Thank you.
@Ms. Polar Bear: Thank you for this! The actual post and stopping the discussion on your advice!
I think that my advice, as a young bride, would be to just don't let it get the best of you! I know that sometimes that can be easier said than done, but it is so true. No one knows your situation better than you and your FI. If you go on believing what others say about you, your age, and/or your relationship then you are proving their point to an extent. You have to be sure of yourself and your relationship and know that you can do it and you are making the right decision. If someones comment bothers you because you think it may be true then work through it. Talk about your fears/worries/hopes, it is the only way to overcome them! Overall, BELIEVE in yourself!
I got engaged at seventeen, and married the month after my eighteenth birthday. It fell apart quickly, and now at twenty I'm getting married again.
My advice would be to be selfless. And let your spouse know you expect the same. If you're not willing to sacrifice your wants for eachother, to better your relationship, and make your spouse feel fufilled and appreciated, no amount of money is going to make a difference. You should be fighting for eachother. Feel free to get advice from other people about your relationship, but ultimately the decision is between the two of you, and how you two relate to eachother :]
My family and friends were extremely hesitant to 'approve' of my getting into a serious relationship, let alone getting married a second time, at such a young age. But we stood firm in our faith in eachother and always responded with, 'We appreciate your concern, but whether or not this turns out to be the best choice for us, really affects only us. We understand that you may think this is a mistake, but that is something only time, and ourselves can determine.' I am happy to say that, because of how adult we acted in those conversations, and the way we have grown together, and treated eachother, has made all of our naysayers realize that no matter our age, we are fully prepared for what we are getting ourselves into and that this marriage is not a mistake.
I believe the Individual couple's maturity level does play a big part in whether or not they're ready to be married of course. It's possible for people that marry young to last a long time or even forever, but it often doesn't happen these days because there's a point in our lives where we rapidly change and grow into adults and that usually occurs in our late teens-early 20's. For example, I dated a guy for 2 years who was 9 years older than me when I was only 19 and my feelings ended up changing for him over time. I was a completely different person once I turned 21-22 than I was at 19 so generally I don't think it's a good idea to get engaged/married at a really young age.
I agree with PP about being financially stable. My husband and I got married at 21/22 after we graduated college, had jobs, and owned a house.
It isn't a one size fits all but for some people getting married earlier works out well!
I think the best advice to follow is to take people's advice with a grain of salt. Older people will often say that getting married young is a bad idea, when what they really mean is that getting married young was-or would have been- a bad idea for them.
I used to let the whole thing really upset me- I'm sure you can find a few of my posts around here where I'm freaking out about the judgement, lol- but now I just listen to what they have to say, think about all the things in my life that they know NOTHING about, and evaluate how valid their points actually are.
Do younger couples have a high divorce rate? Yep. At this point, EVERYONE has a high divorce rate. And you know what? Statistically, second marriages have higher divorce rates than first marriages, and rates for subsequent marriages only increase. Chances are, the people who are shoving statistics down your throat are painfully unaware of what the facts actually say.
Numbers- whether age or statistics- don't define us. Don't let them.
I think that age is just a number. I also think its interesting there is even a concept of "young" brides when in the past people were getting married in their mid-teens...but alas times have changed....
My advice is to really truly want to be with your partener for who he or she is and the other things will fall into place. Its totally ok for you guys to "grow" together if you think that is something that will work for you. Personally i feel like as we get closer to the wedding, my FI has become out of control with going out with friends, being out super late not being home alot etc. but I also KNOW this is just a phase because he wasnt doing these things so much before...
FI and I will have been together for 4 years on our wedding day NEXT WEEK!!! and we will both be 24 (i turn 25 in June though =P) We have both matured and grown as people but we did it together because we were meant to be IMO.
I was definately a different person at 20 than I am at 25...and I expect to grow and change throughout my life, I only hope that FI will continue to WANT to do it with me :)
Personally, i think that when you find the "right" partner for you, there is nothing they will do to HINDER your life, just ENHANCE it...and with that being said...theres no need to "wait" what are you waiting for anyway :)
Noone has told me that I am too young to be getting married at 22, but I know it happens to other people a lot.
I think the most important thing is to both REALLY know eachother well and want to be with eachother, and that you are both ready for all that marriage may entail - emotionally, financially, etc. Don't say "yes" just because you are asked, and don't do it if you have any red flags.
I think the fear of judgment has a tendency to get in the way of how excited you are as a young engaged couple, and while it will always be annoying how people seem to have an opinion on everything for everyone, there is something to be said about being gracious. I knew I was ready when I wasn't worried for people to find out about how serious my SO and I are (he reached that point before I did). I found when I got comfortable with it myself, and got the support of my family/close friends, strangers comments didn't matter as much anymore. People will talk at you regardless of where you are in life, so I just try to smile and change the subject, as hard as it is sometimes.
I think the most important thing is to remember that love is a beautiful thing, and if you've found that then you're a lucky woman, and a lucky couple, and try to celebrate and bathe in that love a little bit every day if you can. :)
I don't really take advice on when to get married. No ones situation is the same as anyone else. And I don't usually give advice either, when it comes to age or whether u should get married. Idk you, so i cant judge u or ur relationship. FI and I got engaged at 17, So there was nooo congrats for us. And 3 years later we're still together. I'm glad we didnt get married right out of hs like we planned. We've had time to live together and mature and grow together as a couple. But I guess when you guys say young you usually mean 21, 22. I will be 20 when FI and I marry and FI will be 21 a few months after. But if you met me, and I didnt tell you my age, you would probably think I am at least 23 by looks and 30 by my maturity. lol. It actually bothers FI how "grown up" I am. My mindset is different from others my age, always has been, i never really had a "childhood" so i guess that plays into it. FI and I faced a lot of judgement and it was sad that no one was happy but us.
I guess my advice would be, dont listen to others advice. lol. Only you know when its right for you to get married. And if it doesnt work out, its you who has to deal with it, not ur mom or the lady down the street or anyone on weddingbee, so its really no ones business how old you are and when you get married. Unless you have kids, then its not about you at all.
I don't see the big deal with getting married younger if you have the money and the means to support a family.
I feel like there are just as many, or MORE people that are rude towards young married couples than teenage mothers/fathers. I'm not trying to be rude, but I'd rather see a young person get married young than have a child very young and not being ready.
In other words, in some areas it is more acceptable to be single and have a child at 16-17 than it is to get married at 20-22 years old.
Oh and my advice: Ignore it and prove them wrong. Personally, I've only gotten one comment and it was because I looked young. The girl (who looked younger than I do) asked me how old I was. I told her 20, and she said "wow, that's young" and then continued to tell me how she got married at 18 and is now 22 with 3 children.
Here is what i went by:
1) I wanted to date at least 4 to 5 years before actually getting married. So we really get to know eachother past & present. (we will have been together 4 years and 2 months on our wedding day)
2) I wanted to make sure we both had stable jobs and were financially stable enough that if one of us were to ever lose our job we could support the other. So that is in check.
3) I wanted a house of our own that we could build equity and raise children in someday. We bought a house together 2 years ago and almost have enough into it to purchase a new one.
4) I wanted us to be past our party stage in life. We used to go out all the time to drink and party. We usually only go out every other weekend now for casual drinks with close friends. We have found other ways to have fun on weekends.
5) Wanted to make sure if we were to get married there would be no debt after the wedding. And there won't be.
5) I wanted to make sure he is my everything and i can trust him with my life. And i do.
Speaking as a young bride (22, I’ll be 23 when I get married), I think getting married at a young age is the right thing to do for myself. For the things I want in life and career and compromises I have to make getting married young works for me. My Fiancé, 28 (29 when we get married) wants kids by the time he is 30 I want to be in the RCMP/OPP at the age of 27 and have a kid that is at least in public school by the time I do that. My thing was that I didn’t want to have a child until I was married for security reasons, seeing as how if anything happened to me, my future hubby will only be looked after if I was married to him and of course I want the best life for any future kids we may have.
My mom said she trusts my judgment and if I didn’t think it was the right thing or the right time I would have told Gerald that when he proposed. My best advice, don’t get jaded by the ring and ideas of being married, make sure that it is in your best interest to get married age aside. My fiancé and I have only been together for almost 3 years, not as long as a lot of people on the site, but we both know we will exhaust all resources to try and stay married, and we both want the same things in life. Getting married young works for me. You have to ask logically “does it work for you”? Hate to say it, but love for me is not the only reason to get married.
I think you are ready to get married when you are old enough to know what values you need to fight for, which things are worth the sacrifice, and what you need to be happy with a person. It takes time to learn to be an adult, to learn where you stand, what you believe in, and how to stand up for yourself.
While education and financial stability are both important, I think it is more important that you are your partner have the same ideas about those things. For example, me and my FI like cheap things, and save our money for the few pricey items we want. We love that about each other. We both feel being well educated is important, me more so than him, but we accept that knowledge and skill can make up for differences in education.
I also think the ability to be totally honest with that person is important, as well as being able to really listen to them being totally honest. It is hard to be so totally open, as well as to be willing to listen to pain, anger, or disapointment from your intended.
Life leads people to mature differently, your age is relevant to when you get married, but not necessarily a barrier. Age is not just a number, it is an amount of experience. If you can honestly commit yourself heart and soul to that person, being willing to compromise, and sacrifice, but also willing to let them know when something matters to you, then no one should stand in the way of doing what feels right to you.
I just don't understand when people feel the need to be rude about it. The way I see it, if you are engaged (or soon-to-be engaged like me!), then you say Congrats. Even if you think something else, you lie and pretend to be happy. You do not ruin that person's joy. Especially when it is a stranger telling you that you are too young, I fell it is like "You don't know me. You don't know my BF. You don't know our relationship. So therefore I don't want your opinion."
I was 28 when I walked down the aisle and people told me I was too young. But honestly if I had waited until 30, they would have started to say I was an older bride, so it's a lose-lose situation.
@A.FoolsBride: I'm in a similar situation. I'm 22 (will be a couple months short of 24 when I get married) and he'll be nearly 31 on the day of the wedding. It just makes sense because if we're not getting married, we'd be living together anyway. Us getting married would make things official for tax purposes, so that my employment benefits can also cover him.
usually people picture young engaged people as very passionate, spur-of-the-moment sorta people. however, i think there are also many people who are rational about their decision making, and are open to committing to someone to enjoy the warm sense of belonging to their new family.
@moderndaisy: Wow! I can't say I've ever heard of someone telling a 28 year-old bride she was too young. That's insane! At that point you've been voting and likely paying taxes for 10 years...exactly how long do people expect someone to wait before their judgment and decisions can be considered valid?? *mind blown*
One of my sisters got engaged around the same time as I did. She's 20 years old. I think maturity is a case-by-case issue, and in her case I have no question in my mind that her decision is sound. She works as a waitress and goes to school part time, but that makes her happy. She's not an egghead academic like I was. Her fiance is gainfully employed and is 10 years older than her (and yeah, I'm not one to judge considering my fiance is 7 years older than me, but because my sister was 18 when they started dating I originally gave that relationship the side-eye - but I soon realized he was a good guy and not a creeper).
I'm sure people who tell young brides they're "too young" mean well, because the truth is, a lot of those relationships don't work out due to varying levels of maturity, experience, understanding of the give-and-take involved in a marriage, etc. But I think only the people who know the couple well (close friends and family) are in a position to be giving that kind of advice. Some stranger or distant relative has no business presuming to know anything about your character, judgment, or maturity.
I get the 'you're too young' from my grandmother. She got married young to move out of the house. She has never been happy. And regrets getting married. She thinks I'll feel the same way and it telling me to get wait and get married when I'm 38. (I'm 23 right now - married when I'm 25) I just don't talk to her about the wedding anymore. I'm sick of her negativity towards everything I do.
My advice would be to not take any advice. Everything can be taken the wrong way... I do mean everything!
I'm 25 and so is my FI he's currently finishing a tech school thing and might go back to school in a year or so for a 'real degree' and I never plan to go back to school period because I can't stand it. We've lived together for almost a year and we'll both be 26 when we get hitched. Getting married at any age is always about the same thing, never giving up because it gets too hard. It'll always be hard sometimes... that's what makes the relationship stronger.
@Ms. Polar Bear: I did NOT know that the staggering 50% divorce statistic was aimed at the lesser-educated bracket of America, a good example of how numbers and statistics can be skewed by not enough supporting information
I find it interesting that this issue relates in such a huge way to geographical area, as one pp pointed out. For example, my 23 years of age would seem waaaay too young to many (even me some days am I really a grown up now???) though here in good old north dakota it's barely a blip on most peoples' radar with so many girls getting married at 19 or 20. Don't get me started on people's baby-making expectations. haha
I agree with the assertion that one should at least get a degree first- even aside from having that under your belt for self-support there are so many emotional and social changes that occur in the years after highschool. It may be right for some and I can't pass judgement based on my own beliefs, but I still cringe at the idea of getting married right after highschool when one hasn't really been on their own for long or had much time to grow into the adult person they're going to be. I really did think I knew what was going on at 19, and so much has changed even in 4 years- I wonder what the next 5 or 10 years will bring when I'm like "yea I really thought I knew everything when I was 23." haha
As a youngish bride (engaged at 23, married at 25) I would say to make sure you have your priorities and expectations in order. Know what you want, make sure it aligns with your partners wants and desires for the future. I knew I wanted to make lots of money (to be able to help both sets of parents with retirement plus live comfortably ourselves) and not have kids,and I needed him to be ok and accepting of that. Do a ton of soul searching, and make sure you are making the right decision, and met any goals you had set for yourself. For me, I wanted to be near graduation or already graduated by the time we got married, and I graduated 6 months after we got married.
I hate to admit it but as a young bride in todays society you really do have to explain yourself and give reasons why people should be ok with you getting married for them to put aside their preconceived opinions. This is because the youth of today continuously prove themselves to be insufferably stupid. But as long as you feel you are making an intelligent decision for the right reasons for you and your future family then do it, and dont let anyone cheapen your happiness due to their personal opinions.
PS: Im a very young 20 years old and I promised myself and my family I would be done with my degree before marriage and I will be. I get my RN degree in less than a year and will be married before the end of 2012.
My mom sort of implied this, but she's recently given her whole hearted blessing. My fiancé and I will be 25 and 23 respectively when we get married. We've been together more than 7 years. We both went through university, he started his career as a Naval Officer. I'm still working on getting my career going but we've met all the personal goals that we set out to accomplish before we marry. We've had a few of the "you're too young" comments but those of us who know us well know it's right and we've waited a long time for it, so they're happy. Ultimately, those are the opinions that count.
I've had the same problen. FH and I have been together for nearly 7 years (since I was 16) and my mum has always said I'm too young to settle down. My reply to her is that I have found someone that makes me happy, my life is just how I want it so why would I go and try to change it just because I found the right person for me early on in life! It makes no sense to me. I do understand people's hesitation, people grow and change a lot when they're young-which I know we have but luckily we've grown and changed together. I think as long as you discuss your future goals and have the same ideals before you get married you'll be ok.
@cwat12 - you are SO right about feeling like having to explain yourself to people today. Not everyone who is young is an idiot.
Lots of people posting on here act like its bad to get married before your out of school (college). I know a good many couples who got married when one of them was in college and all of their marriages are good and they finished school. I don't think that people will drop out after getting married...I think it gives them an even better reason to finish school and get their degree, to help support them and the man they love and to help make a good life for their family.
I'm 21 and he is 22 and we've been together (and not together) since we were 16/17. We both got the partying and stuff out of the way. My mom and a few friends have been saying that we would end up getting married since before we even officially dated. And now I find myself trying to convince some that we are doing what WE feel is correct for us. My parents were married when they were 20 and 21 and they are still together. We have been living together for 4 months now and we have grown together so much. In a perfect world we would have waited until we bothh graduated but he is being deployed in October. Plans change and if you feel in your heart AND logically that it is the correct decision for the both of you, then age does not and should not matter.
Wow. I don't know about other girls on here, but I just got stressed reading this. I got on the thread actually hoping for advice on what to say back to people who say we are too young or vent about it or how to deal with these situations as they arise. Not discussing whether or not, by getting a diploma, we have proven ourselves mature enough to get married. It's different for each individual. I was looking for salvation on the day to day issues that we run into on getting married young, not a template on what to do first. Granted, I believe that everyone should have a good foundation, a plan. I think that is so important!
I have to deal with two demons when I tell people about my fiance and I.
I am 21 years old, turning 22 this month. I have been with my fiance over the course of seven years with two small break ups. Starting out the relationship, myself a mere 14 year old and him the sly 16 year old, of course we've encountered a few bumps in the road. We went through high school together, which I believe that everyone can relate with me, that it is a very challenging time in our lives. In high school, we take many different paths to determine what will become of us as we enter adulthood. Somehow, we've managed to always come back to each other. Through the hell and the heartbreak, our love never burned out. We grew up together, teaching and guiding each other, even when we didn't know it. I believe that is what makes us so strong. These episodes he and I have worked through may seem trivial to others who are "older," perhaps some younger. This is the first slash of judgement I have to deal with. Everyone always frowns upong the high school sweet hearts who have been together for seven years. I mean seven years is a long time, blows me away sometimes. However, I feel like I've done so much. I don't feel the need to be single to do anything else that I cannot do when I'm with J. I can do everything else that the single ladies want to do, and while I can do these things, I can be loyal.
This is what makes me most frustrated when telling people. It brings me to tears sometimes, that I have to feel ashamed, because I don't have the energy to convince people how strong we are. Even now I can't. We have such a strong and powerful relationship that it's beyond words, and I am so happy that I am so blessed to find someone that I can be so compatible with so young.
Maturity has everything to do with it, that's the truth. Maturity in the sense that you have a good grasp on how to get along in life: paying bills, having a job, being responsible. You may still have to ask others how some things should be played out, but no one knows everything. Too many people view 20 somethings as boys and girls at parties and drinking and having one night stands, skewing their views that if we are not doing this now, we'll want to later and then divorce due to a mid-life crisis. Which reverts back to my expanation of it's important to have the strength in the relationship of knowing what you want out of life.
For instance, as soon as we get married, my fiance wants to have a baby. Which I think is absurd! No way am I ready to have a baby! In the future, perhaps 2-3 years I will be ready then, but I am not ready now. However, I know that I am ready to get married. I love the life that I share with my fiance.
For us, we are ready. We have lived together for over two years. He has a well paying job that can support the both of us. I have some college education and a good job. I still want to go back to school and I will. We have dreams that we can still accomplish while being together and we will.
Anyway, the point I am trying to get at is, let's stop talking about what should be done before marriage to prove you are ready for marriage. You are ready for marriage when you are ready. Let's talk about what we have to deal with and how we overcome it. People throw statistics out too much. I am hit with statistics all the time and I hate having to deal with it. I hate feeling like I am alone in feeling this way and having to deal with it alone as a woman. My fiance says what he cans, but I like having a lady's opinion that knows what it's like.
Thanks for reading bees ;o)
I completely get the statistics part. If you feel ready after 7 years, then you are ready. It sucks having to convince pple but I learned early on that its not necessary. Its just easier to say thanks for the advice and move on. Even my FH threw in a stat about military marriages and I looked at him like he was crazy. Thankfully he realized what he said and took it back. I've always believed that a person can plan every single detail of their life but there are things that are not in our control. There is a saying in spanish about this and I wish I could remeber it but it pretty much says that we may plan all we want but god will make the final decision. Good luck in your marriage and always do what feels right for you and J.
Ok i have an issue with the waiting until you are "finacially stable" what does that mean? If it means you have enough in your savings to float you for 5 months then I have been finacially stable since high school and no my parents do not help me with college at all. I pay for all my own schooling and books. My parents haven't paid me a dime since 7th grade. I got that savings by working hard all year aroung while still in school. My FI is the same as I am and has worked his whole life and saved all of it.
Keep in mind we just turned 20! I am tired of people saying you need to find yourself first. I am sorry but I have been through more bad situations then most 30 year olds have so I am pretty stable in knowing who I am. Also my FI and I are growing together, we are making each other better people because we have the support and gentle reminders of each other.
We both have stable jobs, already share a home (yeah gasp all you want but its been that way for a year now), and getting married would only make things easier. If we shared a last name I would get more grants for school, I would get put on his health insurance at work, and when I have to student teach in a year his income (and my savings) will support us while I am essentially without a job for a semester. To us getting married just makes sense. We have dated for over 2 years and have been best friends for almost 8 years so we know we are going to be together forever. We have been dating longer then most people have KNOWN each other before they get married. Why should us being underage be an issue? Tell me what do you think?
I really don't get the "OMG you're so young" thing very often. The only age-related thing that happened was more because I look younger than I am.
I was shopping with one of my BMs and we were talking about wedding dresses and the cashier said "OOOOOH are you looking for prom dresses?" lol! I said "no, wedding dresses." And she says "How OLD are you????" I told her I was 21 and she said she was 21, too. lmao!
It was kind of annoying, but it makes for a funny story.
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