People Suck! Bridal shower FAIL

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s actually very possible that she can’t take off in November. I know when I worked retail, we couldn’t take any time off from November 1 to February 1. 

Post # 5
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Glasgowbound:  Agreed.

@OP, you obviously don’t know a lot about working retail in a mall in November. I did it for years, and we were not allowed to request any time off from November-January 1st. If you got a day off that you happened to want, great. But if not, too bad so sad. That’s what you deal with when you work at the mall.

Your friend would most definitely rather be at your shower than slaving away in the mall during one the most hellish months of the year. Cut her some slack and don’t be difficult by saying passive aggressive things like “I’m sorry I’m such an inconvience for you”.

Post # 6
2174 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My husband works for a company that doesn’t allow any time off between November-January and July-August.  

Only my MOH was able to be at my shower due to distance and personal commitments of my bridesmaids.  It was still a beautiful and loving celebration.  However, why do you think because one friend can’t be there, that no one else will?  That’s a bit of a jump.

Pick your battles.  Focus your energy on the things you can control– her work schedule is most certainly not one of them.  Good luck and hang in there.

Post # 11
2783 posts
Sugar bee

@FutureMrsJohnston:  every place I have worked in retail was November 1-feb 1st and there were no exceptions. I didn’t get to have Christmas with my family for years because I lived out of state and we were open every day except Christmas an thanksgiving 

Post # 12
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@FutureMrsJohnston:  Apparently she already did take off for a wedding so maybe she can’t request another day.  If I had to take vacation or request a day off I’d rather do it for a wedding then a shower personally.

Post # 13
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Agreeing with everyone so far. I worked in retail for five years, at two different places, and it was always a rule that during the holidays, no requests for time off or schedule changes would be honored. Trust us when we say that it really is not her fault.

Her job is her means of living. Skipping work for a day for a friend’s bridal shower is not worth loosing a job over, especially in this economic climate. She will probably still need this job when your wedding is over with. This does not mean that she doesn’t care about you, or that she doesn’t want to be there for you.

Post # 14
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

One of my dearest friends had a year’s notice to take off work. He works as a cashier in a very big grocery chain in California.

He was denied the day off every time he applied for it.

ETA: I worked retail in a hunting store. We were allowed one personal day (Not necessarily a sick day or a day where we travelled for work or whatever) a month. Maybe she *can’t* get two days off because of store policy. All in all, cut the girl some slack.

Don’t get too bent out of shape. Chances are, she really couldn’t get the time off. That isn’t anything she can control. I don’t see how it being a weekend makes any difference.

Post # 15
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Heck, I’ve never worked retail, but the horror stories of the November and December months have me thinking your friend may have a hell of a time trying to get time off.

ESPECIALLY if she’s already taking off a wedding?  Ever think that maybe the reason she can’t take off work for your shower is cause she already got lucky enough to take off for a wedding?

I’d cut her some slack.  Your invitations haven’t even gone out yet.  Those three people probably said they can’t come because you told them the date and they legitimately already have plans.  Don’t worry about no one coming.  It’s way early to worry about that.

Post # 16
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@FutureMrsJohnston:  apparently you are just bound and determined to be upset about this. Just because it’s a Sunday doesn’t mean anything – no taking days off, means no taking days off. She might get lucky and not get scheduled for that day, but you can’t request a specific day off. 

Within a month of your shower is a huge time frame, and likely before the retail black out period. 

and yes, people won’t be able to come to your shower. It’s a fact of life. You’ll also get people who RSVP no to the wedding. I invited 20 people to my shower and 5 couldn’t attend. It was still wonderful. 

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