- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
OK so, I try to be a good friend and be supportive and happy for my friends in their good times and in bad. Also, even if I am going through a “bad time” like a depression, which I have, I still try to be there for them as much as I can. I am the one who throws the party, plans the outing, arranges the surprise, and I like doing it.
That being said, I’m a little pissed that no one can do the same for me. Specifically, I have several friends who I have been there for recently, really gone out of my way to support them and do nice things for them, or make time for them during hard times. With one friend, I was supportive of her through really happy times, but now that that period is over, she’s basically vanished as a friend – she says she is always tired and busy and is very negative about her own life, never asking about my life. Or it’s just a cursory “How’s work” or “How’s wedding plans?” but no real interest behind it. With another friend, I supported her during a bad time…now that things are going well, she’s disappeared.
I don’t do any of these things for others thinking “OMG they better do the same exact thing for me” but it is becoming a bit evident that in fact, with many of my friendships I put way more into them than the other person does.
So, what do I do? Stop putting as much into my friendships and keep feeling resentful? Confront the other people and say “Hey, I need some support and stuff too!” I mentioned this to one of the girls, and she just said “Everyone will be more excited about your wedding when the time comes around.” Um, ok.
I think it is especially hurtful because they know my mom and my FH’s mom are not interested / not supportive, and they don’t realize how hard it is for me to be planning this wedding with like, no females to talk to (except the hive).
Sigh. I don’t know what I am asking for here, but I am starting to feel really bitter towards these girls who are supposed to be my best friends.