People sure come out of the woodwork when you get engaged

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I was just surprised to see how many people liked or commented on facebook when I changed my status to engaged.  People I didn’t even know I was still FB friends with popped up.  Thought it was a little odd but also just like “oh that’s nice of them”.

Post # 4
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2091 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@FutureMrsT1221:  They certainly do come out of the woodwork!! They don’t give a damn about what’s happening in your life until you get engaged and then they are all up in your face wanting details and an invitation!

Post # 5
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298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@FutureMrsT1221:  A friend from HS whom I barely ever spoke too has crawled out of the wood work recently. I’m talking texts EVERY DAY.

Post # 6
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3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@FutureMrsT1221:  I actually lol’d when I read the title. SO TRUE! One old, old friend of mine came crawling out of the woodwork to message me and actually said that she can’t wait for my wedding and that she plans on making it into a big reunion of all our old friends. Um. What? No. I haven’t seen you in nearly 15 years. Not happening.

@Kit_Kath:  I think I said the same “Oh that’s nice of them” thing quite a few times when people I didn’t remember having on FB liked my status.

Post # 7
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I had lots of likes and comments from people I hadn’t spoken to in forever, but I didn’t feel like any were asking for invites. Only one person really surprised me with a “where’s my invite?”

Post # 8
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720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Yeah – this happened to me & FI, too. Old friends from high school (or before), but especially those from college who I haven’t heard a peep from in over 2 years.

One mutual friend of ours (if you can even call him that anymore) has been in the Peace Corps for the last couple of years and we’ve both sent him a few emails to see how it has been going, and he’s never responded. He’s been living in Rwanda, so I don’t expect constant emails, but an acknowledgment would have been nice! The day after we get engaged, he sends us both a Facebook message saying congrats and asking if the wedding will be after he gets back to the US. SO shameless. Sorry, buddy, but you’re not getting an invite.

Post # 12
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457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

There was a former coworker I’d added a really long time ago. We never met outside of work, we were just friendly in-store. Never talked after she left. Suddenly, she was all over my status messages wondering when it was and saying she’d better get an invite!

Luckily she stopped when I didn’t respond to her or brushed off her guest list questions. Still, that was so weird!

Post # 15
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Oh it is INSANE how many people say crap like “can’t wait for the wedding!” assuming that they are invited. Close family is one thing, but if I haven’t seen or spoken to you in years, I’m most likely not going to spend $100 to have you at my wedding. FMIL is having a LOT of trouble with seeing old neighbors around town (small town problems) who say they can’t wait or say they hope they are invited. Unfortunately for me, FMIL has a hard time saying no to people, and feels obligated to invite everybody under the sun, so there’s a crap ton of budget drama happening in my wedding planning right now. I want to smack people who invite themselves to weddings. 

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