Post # 1
People’s immaturity just floors me. Just need to rant!
Here is a little background before I start the story. On our wedding night our house was trashed as a “prank” Everybody has paid their dues, we’ve moved on, old news. With cousin 1 (18 years old and single) things have smoothed over with for the most part. We will be cordial to her and that’s all that’s really required. Cousin 2 (20 years old and married) isn’t from the area and hasn’t talked to DH and I since the wedding incident which is fine with us. I blocked her on Facebook but DH still has her.
Tonight DH’s grandparents threw a little cookout. Both cousins where there which was awkward at first but DH and I said hello to both of them and carried on. Cousin 2 wouldn’t say hello back but her husband was all smiles and said hello.
I was asked to bring a dessert and happily obliged. I made a nice peanut butter and chocolate dessert that was a hit! I glanced over to Cousin 2 who had a big slice of dessert. She was staring at it with a smirk on her face. I then see her walk up the trash and throw out her untouched dessert! Her husband is sitting next to her eating his. Um, why did you take a piece if you didn’t want it and I’m sure your husband would have gladly eaten it?
Her husband even compliments me later in the evening saying how good it was. Just irks me because I know she did that to be catty. Grow up. Ok, rant done 🙂
Post # 3
Sounds like a winner! I think your plan of not talking to them but being cordial when necessary’s a good way to go, even though they don’t deserve it.
And peanut butter & chocolate anything’s awesome.
Post # 4
They trashed your house? Who does that?!
I think you are daling with it fine.
Post # 5
Who the eff trashes somebody’s house on their wedding night!?
Yuck, they sound idiotic & stupid.
The pie thing? Flat out dumb. Who wastes perfectly fine & delicious food to prove a point? (the point being..? who the hell knows)
Post # 6
Who on earth trashes someone’s house? Especially on their wedding night? I wouldn’t tolerate a child doing this, let alone people old enough to know far better.
Anyway, so far as the dessert is concerned, your cousin is the silly one. She deprived herself of a delicious dessert in order to prove a pointless point. Clearly she has a long way to go before any sort of maturity sets in. In fact, I’d laugh at the very idea that she thought people would notice or care.
Post # 7
@Cummins59: I remember your other post, these people seem kind of horrible… You’re so much more graceful and kind about this crap than I would be.
Post # 8
Ah, I remember your post about what they did. They’re trash. Ignore her stupid “getting back at you” because she’s obviously a moron.
Post # 9
What a childish thing to do! I’ll bet when your back was turned she picked it out of the trash, gobbled it up and licked her plate!
Post # 10
@Cummins59: You say you have moved on but it doesn’t really sound like it. It is just a piece of pie and personally I think you are making a much bigger deal out of someone throwing away a piece of pie than there needs to be. Maybe she tasted it and disliked it, maybe a fly landed on it, maybe she realised it had an ingredient in it that she couldn’t eat? There are a million reasons why she could have thrown out the piece of pie.
Be civil, say hello and then ignore her and stop paying attention to her. You can turn anything someone does into a slight if you try hard enough.
Post # 11
The only word I can think of to describe that little display is pathetic. Brava to you for being able to handle that graciously.
Post # 12
Continue to take the higher road. What a petulant child that adult is. I feel sorry for her husband.
Post # 14
@Cummins59: They did a bad thing and you and your husband had every right to be mad. I’m glad that at least two people in this situation are mature enough to move past it. Cousin 2 sounds like the real problem here, she is a child and she’s looking to get a reaction out of you. So deal with her like you would a child and ignore her.
Next time she throws away the pie, smile back at her to show her that you don’t care. Whatever you do don’t stoop to her level. It’s astonishing what level of mean, childish, petty behaviour families will accept from people simply because they’ve been doing it for years. If your cousin has always been a childish bitch people are probably used to it and willing to make excuses for her ( eg ‘it was just a prank!’). So if you act like a bitch to her then you’ll look like the bad guy because your in-laws hold your cousin to a lesser standard of behaviour than everybody else.
Post # 15
No use stooping to her level, I’m past playing petty games. It just makes me laugh that I could say hello to her and she literally turned around and walked away. I guess she gave us the same attitude at our wedding too. Didn’t even say congrats or anything when DH and I talked to her. I agree, I feel bad for her husband!
As my mother always said, “Kill them with kindness!” it’ll only frustrate them more!
Post # 16
@Cummins59: Wow, that cousin sounds really immature.