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Should be shot. And pissed upon.
Unless they were in a car accident or had some other tragic unforeseen circumstances.
I had a couple that did this. Two seats were left glaringly empty in one of the tables with the placecards just sitting there and it really bothered me. Cost me $350 that could've been spent on other guests who would've loved to be there. And then not even a phone call or email for WEEKS! No explanations or apologies, I couldn't believe it. I thought they either had a big family crisis (I knew they were having marital problems) or decided not to be friends for us for some reason. The guy had made an awkward and bizarre romantic gesture to me a MONTH before my wedding, but I'd brushed it off as him being confused and had done my best to pretend it never happened and to get rid of any awkwardness. About a week after we returned from the honeymoon, we received a weird gift in the mail with a handwritten note hurriedly scribbled on a paper written by the wife. It said that their baby had an ear infection and they didn't want to leave her with the babysitter. I'm still at a loss for words at the lack of consideration and respect. I still don't know if there was more to it than what they revealed, but as far as I'm concerned the friendship is over.
I had 5 people (out of 190) that did not show up. One was in a car accident the day before and was out of town. I totally understood. One was DH's nephew's gf. His sister (nephew's mom) made a big deal about including her . . . and MIL said she would show up. The other was DH's co-worker. I even specifically asked her what her meal choice was and her date's choice was . . . three days before the wedding. She assured me she would be there. It really annoyed me. The other was a a friend of DH's and mine who we hadn't seen in a while. He RSVP'd early and didn't show up. We never hear from him. It was sad.
We had a few of those. Never heard from most of them again. Two of them just told us why they didn't show up, within the past month. We got married in November. It took them 7 months to tell us why they weren't there?!?
We had a couple not show. Turns out they "just decided" to go on a cruise. Hmm... seems like you need to book tickets ahead for those!
Another couple didn't show with their newborn, but I guess I cut them a little more slack, considering the infant.
We had 2 people (that we can think of) not show. One was sick (but her husband made it), and the other we didn't even hear an excuse from. 
i hear about this issue all the time, but i honestly don't think there was anyone who didn't show up... not that i noticed anyway! in another thread a girl mentioned that she had 45 no shows!!! WOW how is it possible to know that many rude people??
I had almost an ENTIRE TABLE not show up. There was one person at it. I felt awful for him and very angry at the 10 other people that ditched our wedding.
We had one couple that didn't show. They were the parents of one of my husband's groomsmen. We never heard anything from them... but DH saw them when we were out to eat last night, and they apologized. They apparently forgot. (?)
I had it set in my head that people weren't going to show... so I was actually surprised that only 2 didn't!
We had about 20 no shows. Really made me mad. Cost us a lot of money. Most we received no explanation and those were family members.
Uh oh. In the past 2 weeks I've had 3 people say they can't make it after all. One said he couldn't then changed his mind. There are about 5 other people who I suspect will flake and one girl who will be 38 weeks pregnant (or possibly be in labor).
I didn't know it was this common. Hmm, maybe I will find it in my heart to forgive my no-show couple...But I still don't get the no calling or apologizing!
A good friend of DH called him the day of the wedding, a couple of hours before the wedding to tell him he wasn't going to be able to make it...uhhh, you live in seattle...you knew you weren't going to make it LONG before that call...and why the day of?!?!? we were super pissed...and two of my really good girlfriends called me the day before to tell me they weren't coming...one didn't give an explaination (but I saw the facebook pics of her random trip to Atlanta) wow really?!?! and my other girlfriend had a baby shower (also seen on facebook) that she went to...my thought was that all of those events were pre-planned...so why tell me the day before? I definitely wasn't a happy camper...hello! that's food that we had already paid for!
Out of our 40 people we had 3 no-shows. One was the daughter of my husband's cousin. He showed up with 2 of his kids but left his teenage daughter home for some reason. No one mentioned it but I think it was probably something to do with her mother more so than anything. Another was a friend of mine that had rsvped for himself +1. He wasn't invited with a guest but I let it slide and saved space for him and his guest since he wouldn't know many people. We haven't heard anything from him so I'm kinda annoyed by the fact that I set aside extra space and he couldn't even manage a phone call.
We had probably about 15 no-shows! A bunch of DH's family RSVP'd and we had a feeling they weren't actually ever planning on coming, and we were right. If I could go back and not give their count to the caterer, I would, but I was so afraid they'd show up and it would be awkward that they didn't have a seat! We had a whole empty table :(
We had a really good friend of Mr Trailmix's say she was coming and made a hotel res but then the day before the wedding, he texted her asking if she was still coming and she responded that she couldn't bc she had to study for a test (she's in med school.) It's totally fine that she couldn't come bc of school but if he hadn't texted her, she wouldnt've told us at all! So rude...We had about 4 other no-shows but that one was definitely the worst.
I had one person who rsvp'd yes and told me a little ahead of time they weren't coming! I kiiiinda wanted to send her a bill for $300 haha ;P But I didn't. And it all worked out :)
My sister had 5 no shows out of 120. No one told her ahead of time. A couple said they were sick...others gave no reason at all.
We had some no shows! It was obnoxious. Couldn't they have just called us and let us know? We didn't have to pay the food bill until the night of the wedding... could have saved ourselves a few hundred dollars.
We also had some people RSVP that they were bringing a guest and then not even bring the date. One of those people in particular didn't even give us anything either. Sooo we paid for him and his nonexistent date and got squat in return. Boo.
A couple of other things that bothered me was that some of my in laws friend gave SO little. Now normally I wouldn't care, except my in laws had just gone to their kids' wedding and given the normal $100-$150. Not to mention they were all doctors and came as husband and wife and gave $25. Weird.
We had about 10 of these. 3 were family members who couldn't come because of medical issues (totally understandable), but the rest were either a) friends who just didn't show, and I haven't heard from, or b) people who RSVP'd that they'd bring a guest, but didn't after all. There were also a couple that showed up to the ceremony, but didn't come to the reception. I'm over it, but disappointed in them and bummed out about that extra money that I wasted and could have spent on other things (or even better - not spent at all!)
We had a bunch of these. One excuse was that they decided to throw a baby shower for her cousin. Hmm...don't you usually have to plan those in advance? I got a lot of sick excuses and a lot who just plain didn't show up. Really irked me, but what can you do?
That's annoying! At my friends wedding, his cousin made a big stink about coming with BF then never showed. Made some excuse about car trouble but it turned out she never even left the house that day!
We had a few no-shows, but I didn't even notice til the next day. I was having too much fun at my own reception to notice. :) There were about 5 people out of 60 that didn't show, but DH and I both kind of "knew" that they would probably flake on us.
For my first son's wedding I had 3 couples of just my friends who didn't show and I have no idea how many of my son's friends or the brides family didn't show. Two couples were co-workers and their husbands who told me later that they wouldn't have known anyone so they didn't come. So why the heck did they RSVP yes in the first place? The other couple was my attorney/friend and his wife who I saw later and they said they forgot. Sooooooo....for my second son's wedding this Saturday, NONE of these people got an invite! And....I got a new attorney!
i am terrified of this! especially for the people who took SOOO long to respond (like they were deciding?)
our planner says when they have to give the final number 3 days before the wedding, they usually give a number that is a few less than the actual RSVP number in anticipation of a few no-shows. and if they all show, its easy to make more food. but once they make it, you can bet they're charging you for it.....
We had to give final numbers to the venue 3 weeks prior to the wedding. Our count was 90 guests who had RSVP'd yes at that time, and I gave them a final # of 84. Between the 3 week, and 3 day out FINAL number we dropped to 84 exactly, and then on the wedding day we had 3 no shows. Two people showed up to the ceremony, and then decided to go to touristy stuff in the area rather than coming to our reception.
We also, had a few couples that were no shows and then I had a lot of family that didn't show up, which bummed me out! Mainly because I always try to make it to every wedding in our family, because it is a big deal. It wasn't like our ceremony was hours away from where my family lives, it was 45 minutes away......I was finally getting over the fact that they didn't show up, and most of them didn't even send a card at least congratulating us, but my cousin who just got married this past June, guess what....yep....they were all there for that one.....kind of makes you feel like there is something wrong with you!!! And I'm pretty sure that it will be the same way when my other cousin gets married in a few weeks.....Extended Family....guess you gotta love em!!
I actually committed this terrible sin but seriously it was there own fault. They had sent an invite with the wrong information!! Granted I should have caught the error, but I really wasn't scouring over the invite. It read Saturday, and the date. It should have read FRIDAY and the date. I RSVP'd w/o much thought (b/c I never work weekends) and then like 3 days before the wedding heard from a friend that the invites were printed wrong and it was Friday. I needed to be at work until 6:30 and FH was working until 8:00, the ceremony started at 5 and the reception right after. The site was over an hour away. I could not ask to leave early as the reason I had to work until 6:30 was to cover another girl. I would have only been able to attend for not even an hour as the reception ended at 9:30 and I really didn't want to drive all that way by myself just to show up late. I did call the groom and apologize the day before the wedding. He acted put off, but ya know what, if he would have sent the right info in the first place OR called the guests as soon as they realized their error, I could have made plans! Seriously how do you put Saturday on an invite that you send out to 100 people knowing that the wedding is on Friday?!
FI has a flaky cousin who doesn't have a car (we live in Los Angeles - you gotta have a car, or take the initiative to use the bus...she has neither). Of course, she hasn't responded by the reply date and I have mentally already crossed her off the list. She has three kids that we invited, so if we counted them in and they ditched us, that's about $250 down the drain.
There are some people you could bend over backwards for to accomodate, but you already know your efforts would be unappreciated or in vain...she's one of those people. I don't see a need to call her, arrange for a ride, work something out, etc.
We had two couples that didn't show. One of them got back to me today and was so incredibly upset she had missed it. She had just written it down as a different date in her diary. DH's couple friends haven't spoken to him about it yet. Although I was the most upset about my friend who texted me an hour before the reception to say she wouldn't make it because she was too upset as her guinea pig had died that week.
Oh well, at least we had a cocktail reception so it wasn't glaringly obvious. But DH and I knew.
We had several no-shows, most of them were either our friends or my parents friends. We also didn't get a card/gift from any of them. I can understand not coming at the last minute, it was December and there was snow, but not even to acknowledge it with a card?
In January, less than a month after losing my baby, McGroom and I went to a wedding. I RSVP'd that we'd come as long as Moose wasn't wanting to come that day. When we showed, she was so surprised to see us because I never said anything about coming or not after losing Moose. It wasn't something I thought about, which makes sense to me. Well, I invited her to my wedding, haven't heard a thing. I sent her a message asking if she got the invite. No response. Can she seriously be mad at me because we came to her wedding after RSVPing "yes, as long as I'm not in labor," losing our baby the month before (who was due the following month), and then coming? We gave a nice present and everything. I just don't understand.
WOW i guess i kinda expect a few no shows... I hope everyone shows at least who RSVP's.
But what scares me is Mexicans are nictorious for not RSVP'ing and just showing up with extra people LOL
We had 3 people not show ... one facebook messaged me that morning saying she had to work, the couple called my dad and they had a vehicle breakdown and couldn't do the 3 hour drive ... it was unfortunate.
My family and I were talking about it this weekend -- and how tough that is when people do not show because it is so expensive...10 no shows would mean 1100 bucks for us. Not fun.
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