People that RSVP ‘Yes’ But Don’t Show Up

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Should be shot. And pissed upon.

Unless they were in a car accident or had some other tragic unforeseen circumstances.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I had a couple that did this. Two seats were left glaringly empty in one of the tables with the placecards just sitting there and it really bothered me. Cost me $350 that could’ve been spent on other guests who would’ve loved to be there. And then not even a phone call or email for WEEKS! No explanations or apologies, I couldn’t believe it. I thought they either had a big family crisis (I knew they were having marital problems) or decided not to be friends for us for some reason. The guy had made an awkward and bizarre romantic gesture to me a MONTH before my wedding, but I’d brushed it off as him being confused and had done my best to pretend it never happened and to get rid of any awkwardness. About a week after we returned from the honeymoon, we received a weird gift in the mail with a handwritten note hurriedly scribbled on a paper written by the wife. It said that their baby had an ear infection and they didn’t want to leave her with the babysitter. I’m still at a loss for words at the lack of consideration and respect. I still don’t know if there was more to it than what they revealed, but as far as I’m concerned the friendship is over.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I had 5 people (out of 190) that did not show up.  One was in a car accident the day before and was out of town.  I totally understood.  One was DH’s nephew’s gf.  His sister (nephew’s mom) made a big deal about including her . . . and MIL said she would show up.  The other was DH’s co-worker.  I even specifically asked her what her meal choice was and her date’s choice was . . . three days before the wedding.  She assured me she would be there.  It really annoyed me.  The other was a a friend of DH’s and mine who we hadn’t seen in a while.  He RSVP’d early and didn’t show up.  We never hear from him.  It was sad.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We had a few of those. Never heard from most of them again. Two of them just told us why they didn’t show up, within the past month. We got married in November. It took them 7 months to tell us why they weren’t there?!?

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We had a couple not show.  Turns out they “just decided” to go on a cruise.  Hmm… seems like you need to book tickets ahead for those!

Another couple didn’t show with their newborn, but I guess I cut them a little more slack, considering the infant.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had 2 people (that we can think of) not show.  One was sick (but her husband made it), and the other we didn’t even hear an excuse from.  Undecided

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i hear about this issue all the time, but i honestly don’t think there was anyone who didn’t show up… not that i noticed anyway!  in another thread a girl mentioned that she had 45 no shows!!!  WOW how is it possible to know that many rude people??

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had almost an ENTIRE TABLE not show up. There was one person at it. I felt awful for him and very angry at the 10 other people that ditched our wedding.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@fontgoddess- I agree!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had one couple that didn’t show.  They were the parents of one of my husband’s groomsmen.  We never heard anything from them… but DH saw them when we were out to eat last night, and they apologized.  They apparently forgot. (?) 

I had it set in my head that people weren’t going to show… so I was actually surprised that only 2 didn’t! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh this thread is making me scared…yikes.

Post # 14
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Newbee

We had about 20 no shows.  Really made me mad.  Cost us a lot of money.  Most we received no explanation and those were family members.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Uh oh. In the past 2 weeks I’ve had 3 people say they can’t make it after all. One said he couldn’t then changed his mind. There are about 5 other people who I suspect will flake and one girl who will be 38 weeks pregnant (or possibly be in labor).

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