(Closed) People think I’m faking happiness!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Dear Abby used to have the best answer for those type of questions. Just turn the question back on them… ” Why would you ask such a question?”

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I can never understand why people have to be so negative/sour. Just say something like, “No, why would I feel that way?” accompanied by a serious look.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think that answering the question straight up will make them realize maybe it wasn’t a question they should have asked. If I were the person who asked “Don’t you feel like they’re stealing your thunder?” and you said “Absolutely not! I am so happy for my brother and his fiance!” I’d feel pretty silly for asking that question in the first place. I think a lot of people project things that they’d feel onto other people.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@AirForceFiance: I think that by asking that type of question really shows the character of the person who asked.  I mean, if that was their first thought “aren’t you mad/upset?” that’s probably an indication that they would be upset/mad if they were in your situation. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

There’s a Chinese saying which describes this situation perfectly – 以小人之心,妒君子之腹。
Haha, to save you from googling, it means
to gauge the heart of a gentleman with one’s own mean measure.

I think you should just reply them with an honest, “no”, and hopefully they would be embarassed that their own petty nature led them to ask such a silly question.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yeah, that’s a bit odd. Just say “of course not – I’m really excited for them!”

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@miss forever: This is my favourite answer.

I completely agree that you don’t need to bother justifying yourself. No is quite sufficient, your happiness for them is implied.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would look at them and say, “Hadn’t even crossed my mind. That would be an awfully petty way of thinking about such a happy occasion, wouldn’t it?” That oughta shut them up 😉

Seriously, what’s wrong with these people? He’s getting married over half a year after you; it’s not like he picked a date a week before yours so he could be the first to the altar.

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