(Closed) People thinking still *just* engaged when noticing rings.

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Sounds like you look pretty young and have a nice, shiny diamond.

 

What was the problem again? 😉

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m not sure what you are hurt about? I don’t see what people are saying that is mean or rude. Most people eyes normally would be drawn to the engagement ring. Just because someone admires your engagement ring doesn’t mean that they think anything negative about your wedding band. 

Unless someone is being rude, I think you should let it go, in the grand scheme of things does it really matter that people don’t notice your wedding band. I also wonder how many of those side eyes are to your response rather then a reaction to your wedding band.

I know sometimes when people get married young a lot of people may comment negatively, so you might have become hyper sensitive about it.Is it possible that you are projecting your feelings onto these people?

Post # 5
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6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Well, it is an engagement ring. So just say yes! What does it matter if strangers know you are married or not? I think you’re creating the awkward situation by pointing it out, because they don’t know what to say to it

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

“Yes, thank you, my husband has great taste.”

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@CherryWaves:  IDK, I just got a diamond pendant and it’s pretty petite at about 1/3 carat. Since it’s new a few people have commented on it, and I did get a couple “wow, what a rock!”-s. It’s certainly not a large stone, but it’s very noticably sparkly and I think that’s what they were complimenting, not the size.

When people say “Geez, look at that rock!”, just say thanks! They’re not trying to be mean, it’s almost slang for “pretty diamond!”. I think you’re just interpreting it in a negative way.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Being the same age as you, I haven’t really gotten that awkward moment when people notice my rings. Normally they just seem shocked and then congratulate me. There have been a few who make it known that they feel I am too young, but I just let it roll off my back. They don’t know me or my relationship so they don’t have a valid reason to think that.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I know how you feel! I have 1.32 ct ring (not married yet) but I’m 20 and I get some odd looks and some jealous looks from the other ladies at my college. It’s normal, don’t let it bother you. Just be happy and chalk it up to jealousy ;D

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@CherryWaves:  I’m not there yet, but I just want to say I totally understand what you’re saying. I think some people might miss what you mean and it would roll off their backs. But I guess it’s similar to being excited and hype about graduating from university/grad school only to have strangers ask you something like “So are you excited for prom?” It’s like you just achieved a major milestone and people are still looking at you like you’re a little kid. So I see what you’re saying, but don’t get too upset about it because I don’t think they mean any harm.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@CherryWaves:  I know where you’re coming from.  I really don’t like comments about the size of my ring–at least to me, it all sounds like commentary on how much money was spent.

If someone says a ring is beautiful, sparkly, etc., that’s a nice compliment.  But “what a big rock” strikes me as a little suggestive/rude.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think if someone acts a little strange after making a comment about your engagement ring it is probably because they feel bad they didn’t notice the wedding band/made an incorrect assumption. Don’t worry about it too much. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@CherryWaves:  I can understand your frustration, but really, just roll with it.  I got married at 31 and all I heard was “it’s about time!”  Yeah… thanks.  And lots of people notice my diamond even now and comment on it, how much it must have cost (none of your business), how big is it (again… not really your business, it’s “about a carat”), etc, etc. 

And – at least you didn’t change your name from “Smith” to something that sounds very Asian.  “You don’t look Asian!”  “No, dummy, I’m not.”

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