(Closed) People wanting me to move my wedding date…(kind of long)

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Just continue saying: “It’s on April 2 I thought I told you that last week, are you sure you’re not having memory problems?”

Did you send the “Save the Date” cards yet? Maybe that will be a good idea? And magnetize them so they can have it up on their fridge? Then they’ll know you’re serious? There it is in writing! APRIL 2, 2013 !!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think its a great idea for you guys to elope on April 2!  Its a meaningful date to you so do it!  Can you do a celebration that following weekend for your families, or celebrate after you go on a honeymoon?  Pushing it back 1 year would still be in the middle of the week.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly if I had to say something more than 3 times, the next thing I said would be, quite politely, “We’ve discussed this numerous times before. The date is non-negotiable and I’d to drop the subject.”

If they keep going, just repeat that last part again until they get it. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I hear you! My condition has always been that it had to be the 7th May, that was our dating and engagement anniversary.

We are also eloping.

I don’t have any advice apart from I’m sorry that people are silly. Hugs!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

On the other hand, if you did have it on a different date (for whatever reason), you would then have TWO amazingly special days to celebrate. Just a thought. ๐Ÿ™‚

As for your parents, the minute they started talking about the date I would just say, “STOP. We’re not going over this again. We don’t need your input. We have a date. The date is April 2nd.  Please don’t bring it up again.”

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is why you’re not supposed to tell people when you elope. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

It’s hard to put your foot down with parents sometimes. I know becaues my mom is THE most difficult person to get to shut up about something she disagrees with you on…but once you get over that hump you’re going to feel so relieved. Honestly, your parents saying that to you is probably just the classic case of parents not ready for their little girl to grow up kind of thing, rather than being doubtful/negative about your engagement/relationship with FI. However, it’s still not necessary. I think you KNOW that they love you and will always offer you a place in their home. That goes without saying, right? Parents are difficult sometimes, but until we become parents, I guess we don’t know what it’s like?

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I understand completely! Our wedding is December 22 and not everyone understands why we want to get married that close to Christmas, but in reality we got engaged Christmas Eve AND it’s the only real break I have from school and we just don’t want to wait.

You gotta do what makes you and your honey happy. Everyone will fall in line after that, and if they don’t then that’s their loss. Your parents will come around eventually. You just gotta keep on telling them that this is the date and thats it.

Good luck doll!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Good luck with everything! That’s AWESOME that they live in Hawaii! Definitely take advantage of that!! ๐Ÿ™‚

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