(Closed) People Who Don’t RSVP – Do they end up coming after contact?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: RSVP's that you had to call to get - Were they mostly....
    Yes : (3 votes)
    17 %
    No : (7 votes)
    39 %
    Even mix of both : (8 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’d also love to hear some bride’s experience with this situation. We are having a small wedding and are currently missing half our rsvps. I’m really hoping a lot of those people will come. I’d feel silly having a dj and dancing for like 40 people. The plus side is that our catering bill would be smaller 🙂

    Post # 4
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    5655 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Most of what we got when we made our calls were a “yes” response. On the day of proabably half of those actually came… mind you we invited all the Pastors we go to church with and it’s a busy time of year so things more than likely came up.

    Also… alot of DH family.. siblings didn’t come.. it was weird.

    I found though that alot of our guests just forgot to send it back… probably all due to being young college students. lol

    Post # 5
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    315 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I said they were no’s… I did have quite a few yes’s, but many many more no’s.  And some people I still can’t even get ahold of! I’m just going to assumed they’re nos.

    Post # 6
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    921 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    4 of the ones we had to chase down were yeses and 8 were nos. 

    Post # 7
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    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think I had to chase down about 20% of my invites and all but a few were “no”.

    Post # 9
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    1559 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @milesbella: I’ve wondered this myself…. I’ve had a few people who were late with RSVPs message me and be like “Sorry I’m so late getting back to you, but we won’t be able to make it” and then they went on to explain in depth why they can’t come. 

    A few of these were close friends, and in the case of one of them, I think she knew all along that they wouldn’t be able to come, and she just didn’t want to have to break the news. 

    I really don’t get this, honestly…. brides understand when people can’t make it, and for brides like me, sometimes we even prefer to see the “no” box checked sometimes! 

    Right now, I’ve got 121 people coming, and about 45 people unaccounted for (14 RSVPs total).

    Honestly, if every single person told me they couldn’t make it, I wouldn’t be upset at all! When you add catering, extra tables/chairs/linens, and extra centerpieces, I would be saving around $600 if these people didn’t come!

    Post # 10
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    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We had ~20 forget to RSVP (I’ve already forgotten exact #s)  ~5 of those people were solid no’s, and the rest (~15) were yes but forgot to RSVP. On the day of, 5 people that RSVP’d did not show up. All 5 of those were people who had sent in their RSVP cards within the time frame…that’s why I’m glad I called the people who forgot to RSVP on time because most of them did end up coming! 

    Post # 11
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I had a mix of both. For a couple it was our fault, we had the wrong address so they never got their invite. Others I think were just lazy.

    Post # 12
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    for me it was 50-50, some of them who hadnt rsvpd werent coming, but then an equal amount were coming and had just forgotten or just assumed I knew

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Gah! Still 63 haven’t RSVP’d.

     

    Of the other 60 or so who didn’t RSVP but did when we called— we got about 60% no 40% yes.

     

    so annoying to track people down. Sigh,

    Post # 14
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    464 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m assuming they were all no’s because after two followup calls and emails none of them responded! So freakin rude! And they are cousins and aunts that did this!

    Post # 15
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    3982 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Hearing how many no’s there have been scares me! we are 9 days away from the dealine and still missing 65% of our RSVP’s… I am really hoping they start showing up! And fast!

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