People who make you feel insecure about love.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Vitana:  yeah i did and i told him to shut the fuck up and right in front of his wife i said how do you know all guys cheat on there wives and are ashholes are you one of them? and he never said that shit around me again! and he was my superior im a paramedic currently taking a break for school though!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Vitana:  he sounds like he is incredibly bitter and unhappy in his own marriage, and is projecting. In my experience happy people are generally positive and want others to be happy too. I am the most pessimistic person I know and since falling in love I just want happy endings for everyone all the damn time! 🙂 Here’s how you handle this: you smile and say “that’s interesting” and continue with your day. Do not agree or argue or react. I bet if he gets a completely indifferent reaction out of you, he will lose interest in saying these things. 

 

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Vitana:  also, 30 is young and you have plenty of time! Ignore him, seriously. He is an idiot. 

Post # 7
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Vitana:  im telling you do what i did it worked he never said that crap around me again!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree with Nightborn.  I’ve always dealt with these sort of people by saying, “Oh.”  That’s it and eventually they give up.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Vitana:  yeah i get it the guy i said it to was my superior however i really didnt give a crap at that point but i agree with the other posters just act like its not bothering you and im sure he will eventually stop!

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Vitana:  to me what you describe screams insecurity, not love. Maybe they really are madly in love, but he is clearly a negative and bitter person who does not know what he’s talking about. I mean, that’s like saying “I have a great job. If you want a great job, your career path and occupation must be exactly like mine or you’ve failed as a professional and will be miserable and unemployed.” As far as age goes, where I live, most people do not marry before 30, and I assure you my friends’ husbands do not wish they had 21 year olds instead of their wives. If this dude really believes women’s stock goes down with age, I feel sorry for his wife. 

 

 

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Vitana:  the funny thing about people is that they assume that their truth is everyone’s truth. He clearly places a lot of emphasis on his wife’s looks and believes all men are that way. It definitely isn’t true! Women (and men too) come in all shapes and sizes. Only a very small percentage of the population looks like the GQ models and the porn stars, and yet the rest of us manage to find love anyway. and no matter how hot his wife is now, she will age too… Everyone does. I hope for her sake he loves more than just her model looks. I’d be scared to age gracefully if I were her and my husband was basically saying women are only worth something if they are attractive. Poor woman.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@marinewife4:  That’s perfect! 

It sucks though that a lot of that shit is true these days. My boyfriend was at a wedding this weekend out of the country, and all of his dad’s colleagues were trying to get him to talk to girls and were blatantly telling him to cheat on me because I would never find out. One of them even kept trying to bring this one girl (literally a model) over to talk to him. It seems they’re all traveling salesmen who cheat all the time. SO said he would hate that atmosphere because it seemed you were judged for NOT cheating because everyone does it. Ew. Fortunately SO is a great guy and repeatedly told the guy no and that he’s committed and would just walk away when the girl came over. But it’s gross to me that guys do that – a lot of people really just don’t respect relationships anymore. But SO always continues to make me feel so secure about love!

I also know someone who would act like your boss if he was actually in a good relationship. I don’t think he has the ability to be in a good relationship in the first place, but if he ever was he’s the type of person who thinks he’s always right and thinks that what he does is always the best way to do things and that nobody else can do it right or the same way. Drives me crazy, and I’m glad SO also got sick of it so we don’t see him often anymore.

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