Post # 1
We are about done finalizing our RSVPs and I was wondering if anyone had RSVPs for Yes but wound up not showing for one reason or another to the wedding. I can understand emergencies of course, but did anyone have people just not show up? We are making table assignments so it will stick out if so-and-so blows us off. Just curious!
Post # 3
I had my friend and her husband come to the ceremony but not the reception. It turned out ok because a friend of DH’s who was only coming to the ceremony ended up asking if he could stay for the reception, so we only lost out on one plate. I have heard of people just not showing up with no communication – that would be an awful feeling, I hope you don’t have that problem!!!
Post # 4
at my sisters wedding, there was a couple who didnt show that sent an rsvp – with no excuse for their absence. its was kinda a distant family friend, but still.
Post # 5
unfortunately, it’s very common. Sometimes it’s one couple, I’ve been to weddings where it was 8-12 guests! SO annoying and costly to you!
Post # 6
Unfortunately you should plan on this happening. If someone doesn’t show up though, it isn’t a big deal as far as how things will look. If it really bothers you though, just have the wait staff, your coordinator, BM, Groomsmen or someone else pick up the place-setting when they notice it.
Post # 7
My sister had 10 people not show up so they ended up paying $200 a head for nothing. I think its really rude to do that, fortunately my venue said they will refund for any no shows. But I always wondered how we would know how many people doesnt show
Post # 8
It happened at all 3 of my older siblings weddings. Luckily it was only 1 or 2 couples for each wedding, but still a head-scratcher. I understand emergencies, but if you just didn’t feel like going out that day it’s unacceptable.
Post # 9
We had two people not show up. One had a fever and the others car had problems on the drive up.
Post # 10
We had 4 people that couldn’t make it out of 110ish guests that RSVPed yes. 2 of them told us a few days before because the lady’s brother had passed away in another state. Our numbers were not due until after we found this out so it worked out just fine. The other 2 told us by text message the morning of the wedding because their infant son was sick and they would be traveling about 4 hours and staying the night in order to make it to the wedding. I had given the venue a count 2 less than what we thought so we ended up exactly at our estimate.
Post # 11
This happened to us with 2 couples. One of them went on vacation, so it wasn’t like they didn’t know that they couldn’t make it!
It ended up being ok, considering all of our wedding crashers! It was nearly a perfect substitution except for the weird seating arrangements. (Crazy party friends co-located with cousins)!
Post # 12
Yeah, I think this happens to everyone.
We had about 6 RSVPS that didn’t show up.
Post # 13
I know this will happen at my reception. I would be amazed if everyone that RSVPs shows up. There’s always somebody with some excuse…
Post # 14
Knowing my family, there will probably be someone who RSVP’ed but doesn’t show up. Knowing my FI’s family, there will probably be someone who didn’t RSVP (or RSVP’ed no) but shows up.
There’s really not a whole lot you can do about no-shows and crashers, but the two groups usually even themselves out.
Post # 15
I am pretty much planning on this happening. FI has extended family members that live out of town and while they RSVP’d yes, I feel like putting a stamped postcard in the mail is a lot simpler than reserving and paying for a flight and a hotel and getting the time off work if necessary.
My mom said she plans to call the hotel after our block deadline and see who has reserved rooms. She said she’s sure they will tell her the names if she tells them its for personalized out of town folders! Anyway, assuming they do, we can then get an idea of who of our out of town guests have not actually made arrangements to come, and then follow up with them.
Post # 16
We had 68 people give an RSVP of ‘yes’. On the day of the wedding, we had 3 no-shows. One person got food poisoning, so that was legitimate. The other two were actually the “plus ones”: one guy who had to fly there just showed up without his fiancee, no reason given. The other guy who had to drive there also just showed up without his girlfriend.
Do people just not realize what an RSVP is? Especially for weddings with sit-down dinners and open bars– we have to pay for each person (that RSVPs) and every hour that they are expected to be there. It’s too bad that wedding etiquette probably dictates that we aren’t allowed to remind people that an RSVP is indeed a financial commitment.