Post # 1
For some reason the whole idea of a money dance seems really tacky to me (don’t mean to offend anyone). My fiance thinks it is totally normal, and says he hasn’t been to a wedding without one. Well I have never been to a wedding with one!
I am REALLY uncomfortable asking for people’s money, especially when the majority of them will already be bringing gifts. It seems really greedy to me.
How do other people feel about this??
Post # 3
I had never heard of it until the Bee, I think it’s tacky. Maybe it’s a regional thing. I’m from Georgia.
Post # 4
I thought the money dance was more of a cultural thing? I’ve never seen it here and won’t be doing it but I don’t think it’s tacky if it’s a culturally or reginally accepted idea.
Post # 5
I don’t even know what one is.
Post # 6
This is definitely a cultural/regional thing. I went to a wedding in the Midwest and never before then have I ever even heard of such a thing. To me, personally, a wedding and reception are hosted events and at no point should a guest have to open their purses or wallets for any reason (no money dances, no cash bars, no wishing wells, nada-zip-zilch).
That said, there are areas or cultures or social circles that any or all of these things are perfectly acceptable, and expected.
I would sit and talk with your FI and explain why this makes you uncomfortable, and see if it’s something he can do without. Maybe he just thinks it’s the way it’s done, and doesn’t know that you don’t have to have one 🙂
Post # 7
I never heard of it, but if it’s something that is normal in your area then I say do it.
Post # 8
Here’s all I have to say – you run a far greater risk of offending your guests by doing it than not doing it.
Post # 9
I had never heard of one before the Bee. However, FI had heard of them, they were normal for the weddings he’s attended I guess. We did one. It was actually quite fun. And we made some good money, lol.
Post # 10
@inky_1: Basically people pay a dollar to dance with the bride or groom, and it’s said that the money will help them on a honeymoon, house, etc
Post # 11
@redheadem: This is only true in an area where they are not commonly done.
Dollar dances are par for the course here. All of the more “traditional” weddings I’ve been to have had them. I think they’re kind of fun, actually.
Post # 12
Money dances are totally a regional / cultural thing, so it’s impossible for us to say they’re right or wrong! Just depends on your circles.
Post # 13
I know they have good intentions in many cultures…but they make me uncomfortable and sort of remind me of a strip club.
Post # 14
Here in Mexico they do it in all the weddings, lol. They pin the money to the dress or the tux… it’s kinda funny