- 3 years ago
I’m new here but trying to find some information online was pretty difficult.
I will give some background…..
My partner and I have been together about 2 years. I have been married before and have a wee boy. We have recently bought a house together and have friends who are getting married and have been planning it since 2012 for getting married 2014 or 2015…..We were joking about it towards the end of January and I said when we get married I want to elope just us. My partner said – why not just do it? and it snowballed from that…..(we had talked before about getting engaged etc)
So we decided to get married in a little over 10 weeks from when we decided to do it.
We have booked everything and the only people who will be there is us, my wee boy, 2 witnesses (who are my step mums cousin – we are getting married on a Scottish Island and they stay there) the photographer and the celebrant.
We have booked our reception for 5 weeks after we come back where we will have around 130 people to celebrate our marriage – basically just a party so everyone can see our photos and drink lots of champagne, eat some buffet and dance!
So far the people who know – us (obviously) witnesses, my friend who has helped me look for a dress and one of his friends who lives very far away and he wants to come to the reception so had to get him to organise travel.
We had planned to get both our mothers up for dinner on the Monday as we leave on the Wednesday to be married that Friday and tell them – sort of double team them. Neither have facebook or even phones that recieve picture messages and give them strict instructions not to tell anyone until the Friday night.
I dont have any real concerns over immediate family – mums, dads etc….We want to get married OUR way, without any hassle or planning or having to wait 2 years for somewhere. We dont want any fuss and most of all we want it just to be us – on a romantic wonderful picturesque island.
I worry because it’s my 2nd marriage and people will think we are rushing into it and will be like “oh I went to the reception first time – I wont bother” and I have obviously done it before – all be it that I did the fairly large wedding first time round and hated every minute of the planning, people staring at me walking down the aisle and the groom (sorry to be blunt but I did)
This time round I know it’s the right thing to do and exactly what I and we want…..
My question is – how did other people react? Friends and other family members…..
Thanks for reading xxx