Percentage of guests that don't show up on the day

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

A last minute cancellation is different to a no show. No shows are people who do not show up and do not let the hosts know.

We had no one cancel last minute and no no shows. In every wedding I have been involved in there has never been a no show but a few have had last minute cancellations for deaths/illness.

  • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  j_jaye.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i had about 30 no shows. i still get annoyed when i think about it :/

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

lilchicana:  What? Were you in a fight with them or something? Were they related or just random guests? 

  • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  j_jaye.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

A wedding planner recently told me to plan for ~5% no shows or last minute cancellations.  She said in one wedding she planned in France, 13 people just randomly didn’t show up. Sometimes everybody shows up, but planning for a 5% drop out rate helps.

I think it also depends on whether you are having an in-town or destination wedding. With a destination wedding people who are driving far are probably more likely to drop out than people who have already bought their plane tickets (that’s just my guess though). Obviously, people get sick & there is sometimes just unfortunate timing that plays a part.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Daughter #1s wedding – 250 invited, 225 RSVPd yes, 1 no-show, a co-worker of the bride. Good excuse – father dying overseas, but gave no notice to us. Another co-worker brought her gift along, so she knew. Bride didn’t find out until the middle of cocktail hour, and told me 15 minutes before it ended. I actually had a friend who would have attended, as a back-up, but I thought that calling her 15 minutes before the start of the dinner was too late (45 minute drive). In hindsight, I should have called her, and not have wasted the $$$.

Daughter #2s wedding – 125 invited (smaller venue, 3.5 hours east of the groom’s side and 1.5 hours west of the bride’s). 101 said yes. 1 on brides side cancelled 2 weeks before – 3 on groom’s side cancelled the week before, so we didn’t have to pay for them. 1 no show, who had poison ivy. I was pretty miffed as this was a date add-on, for one of the bride’s co-workers, who I was asked to add just 2 weeks before. Had to re-do the seating plan, for them. ARGH!

One couple sent a text cancelling, 4 hours before the ceremony, because they had to pack for their vacation. I was extra miffed at that, because I asked my daughter to text them to confirm, the day before the final number was due, since they were leaving on a European vacation the day after the wedding. I was going to call a couple who lived 45 minutes away, to see if they could substitute (the parents of one of my daughter’s friends), but totally forgot about it, in the rush to get ready. Some people have no clue how much a wedding costs $$$. They did know it was black-tie and plated. I wish I couldn’t have given the venue a final number of a few less, like others do, but all the catering had to be brought on site, so a kitchen wasn’t there, to add on a few extra that night.  

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

NowraJanBride:  We had four no-shows (out of 150 guests). Funnily enough, four extra people (they had been invited, RSVP-ed no, and then showed up that weekend anyway) could have taken their place, but the no-shows did not give us advance warning. We could have asked the four other relatives to attend, but alas… we didn’t realize it until halfway through the reception. 🙁

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

118 people RSVPed yes to my wedding and 118 people showed  up.

 

last minute cancellations are different than no shows.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I had 3 no shows out of 89 RSVP’d guests.  I had 3 last minute cancelations which took my # from 92 down to 89. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We had zero no shows and zero cancellations.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Zero no shows or late cancellations.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We had one last minute cancellation with a very good excuse – he was trying to fly out the day before, and Obama flew in to his city and shut the whole airport down for hours 🙁 becuase the airport was so small, they pushed the flight off to the next day, and there is no way he would have made it in time. But no I have a good story about Obama messing with my wedding, so there’s that 🙂

We did have 2 guests make it to the ceremony, but had to leave for a family emergency before the reception. So there may be a few, but at least personally, I wouldn’t be comfortable planning on no-shows. Just assume every RSVP will stick to their word.

 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We didn’t have as many as I thought we would… or wouldn’t actually. And this was because some food options/place cards were not taken – but I know the people were there, so who knows. But I think maybe 5 or so “couples” didn’t show up but said they’d be there.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

j_jaye:  lol, no, there was no fighting, mostly people who don’t know/follow proper etiquette. unfortunately, my dad’s family is pretty flakey, so i was not surprised when some of the didn’t show. there were a few cases where people’s kids were sick or the baby sitter cancelled, so one parent had to stay home. and i found out after our wedding that my husband told some of his family to rsvp ‘yes’  even tho they didn’t know if they’d be able to come so they would have a seat just in case. he was in the dog house for that one, lol.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

lilchicana:  Aside from the last minute illness/child care one’s that is so ridiculously rude. 

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