- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
My SO and I picked a date. We think. Well, we picked a date that is ideal, works with our venue and timing of some other major life events coming up (big move). However, the church that we found is not available on that day but I asked the coordinator to reconsider and she is allowing us to have the wedding on that day, but early. Before 3pm on a Friday.
That would be fine for me, because I think that THE most important people will be there for our ceremony no matter where or what time. My family, and best friends will take the day off and won’t miss it. All the extra people are just bonuses. Can’t make it? Fine. Let’s celebrate later at night at the reception.
My fiance doesn’t agree. To him, the ceremony is more important because that’s what it’s all about and he says a lot of people won’t be able to make it for an early afternoon Friday wedding, which is true.
You may be wondering why we can’t just go and find another church. We can, but it’s really hard to find a church that allows outside weddings, that is accepted by both families (of differing faiths), that is beautiful and is everything that I had dreamed it to be. But I finally did find that church, except they have a less than ideal time available on our dream wedding day. We can’t pick another day either, because our venue is not available, unless we want to get married on a snowy day, which I’m not interested in.
So, since I can’t have it all, what do I give up: a beautiful church that would be everything I’ve been looking for in a church, and instead get married in a less inspiring space but have a later, more ideal time and more guests attend OR keep the beautiful, sweeping, inspiring church at a less ideal time but lose a few guests that may not be able to make it?
In the end, it’s just a short ceremony… but I’m stressed, and stuck, and really just want to book something finally! I’ve been searching for almost THREE months!
Right now, I want to keep the perfect church because I know the closest and most important people will be there, and I can’t please everyone. Is that selfish?